Having Trouble Making a Decision? The Answer Is Inside You

Decision-MakingFrom the moment you open your eyes each day to the time you close them to go to sleep, thousands of options and situations cross your path which require a decision from you. The decisions may be as simple as which toothpaste to buy, or as complex as which job offer you should accept. Each of the decisions you make has an impact on your life, and at times, the over-abundance of options may cause confusion as to which path to take or which option to choose.

A Built-In System for Discerning the Truth
When making any decision, it helps to be informed. Performing research can be very beneficial for the gathering of important information. This research can come from outside sources, such as the Internet, books, and knowledgeable people; however, you also have a built-in system that will help you make the choices that are in your best interest. This is where your intuition comes into play. Listening to your intuition, as well as the heart of your spirit, will lead you in the right direction. As you approach the crossroads of decision-making, your heavenly support team speaks to you through your spirit, and the messages are transmitted through intuitive and extrasensory senses.

Pay Attention to the Signs
If you are confused about which way to go, pay attention to the presence of red flags. Red flags are warning signals to you that can seem to be very subtle; however, if you are attentive and using your senses to guide you, you will be able to see, feel, and hear the truth that will guide you in a positive direction.

When you meet someone new, they will reveal who they are through their words, actions, and energy they share with you. When you get caught up in thinking about the future and your desired outcomes, there can be a tendency to overlook the clues and red flags that they are waving right in front of you in the present moment. For instance, you meet a new guy or gal that you are interested in, and you are completely enamored with them and enjoying the attention you are receiving. In the back of your mind, you may even be hoping that you and this person will be making a significant connection with one another that will lead to a long-term personal or business relationship. In your initial encounter, you will be receiving clues from this person about who they are, and whether or not this relationship will be good for you. Listen very closely to what this person is saying or not saying, how they are acting, and how you feel when you are around them.

Listen to the Messages Behind the Words
A person will reveal to you who they are and what they are interested in through the words they speak. For example, someone who is driven or motivated by money will focus his or her communications on that topic. You need to be actively listening to hear the true motivation behind this person’s words, because they may use flattery to distract your attention. They may even pressure you with strong tactics that attempt to invoke fear in you if you do not purchase his or her product or service on the spot, or go along with his or her plans. When conversation is heavily focused on material aspects, this person is most likely not interested in you or your best interests, but his or her wallet instead.

A person who is genuinely motivated to help you or to develop a relationship with you will not unduly pressure you. They will be interested in learning about you, whether it is for relationship purposes or to help you find a product or service that fits your needs. They will allow you time to make an informed decision. Even under conditions when an on-the-spot decision is required, you have the right to take a moment to process the information you received before making that decision. When someone strongly pressures you with fear-based tactics, it is a red flag because they do not want to give you time to think. They know that if you do, you will realize that this person does not have your interests at heart.

Interpreting Actions
On the surface, a person’s words may seem to be in accordance with your needs; however, this person’s actions may not match his or her words. Ask yourself:

  • Is the person you are interacting with treating you respectfully by being conscientious about your time, your needs, and your feelings?
  • Are they taking care of only his or her needs, or are they honoring yours as well?

The actions they take will reveal whether they truly care about you or if they are not interested in you as a person, but what you can offer them. Someone who does not have your best interests at heart will only be interested in taking care of himself or herself. People do make mistakes sometimes, and they can get wrapped up in their own worlds; however, if you have addressed your concerns with someone, and they do not take consistent steps toward improving the situation with you (taking one nice action and going back to ignoring your needs does not show improvement but a temporary effort to placate you), then they are truly not vested in developing a positive relationship with you.

Energetic and Emotional Clues
Your body and emotions will chime in and give you sensory clues for decisions you are facing. Many people refer to this as heeding your “gut instincts.” That is because the seat of your intuition is the solar plexus chakra, which is located in the region of your stomach. Paying attention to how you feel, such as calmness or anxiousness, as well as being sensitive to the feel of the energy that surrounds a situation or person, can provide you with helpful guidance in the decision-making process.

When you are around someone, pay attention to how his or her energy feels:

  • Are you picking up a negative vibration that is pushing you away or do you feel a positive connection that makes you feel very comfortable in his or her presence?
  • How about when you are purchasing a product or service? Are you strongly hesitating to buy it, or do you feel calm and confident about the choice you are about to make?

Positive energy radiates happiness, calm, peacefulness, and a sense of security. On the opposite end of the spectrum, negative energy feels heavy and uncomfortable. There is an old expression about feeling “tension that you can cut with a knife.” Whoever coined that phrase was very aware of the stress and negative energy that surrounded the situation they were facing.

As a note, both positive and negative energies are contagious. The more aware you are of your own energy, as well as that of others, the more you will be able to prevent yourself from being sucked into another person’s moods. Awareness will also help you become more proficient at determining the source of energy for decision-making purposes.

Putting It All Together
By attentively listening to the words a person shares, paying close attention to his or her actions, and picking up on the energy that you feel, you will be able to better navigate your way through the decision-making process. Combine the information you have received through your senses in order to determine the right path for you. Believe in yourself, and trust that your higher-self and your heavenly support team are assisting you to see, hear, and feel the signs in any situation. By heeding your intuition and following your heart, you will steer yourself in a positive direction that honors you and your needs.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Staying Strong in Spite of Setbacks

Angel Answering PrayersSometimes it seems as though God is delaying the granting of your dreams and answers to your prayers. He is not being mean or cruel to you. Instead, he is preparing the way for you by clearing out obstacles that would have prevented you from living your dreams. Having patience and waiting for his perfect timing may cause you to feel frustration, especially if you feel as though the answers to your prayers have taken a long time to be answered.

Know that God and the angels are working on your behalf. While you are waiting for them to clear your path, take the time to take care of you. Meditate, take care of tasks and responsibilities that need to get done, and take time to play and to participate in activities that bring you joy and happiness.

You are surrounded by your deceased loved ones and angels during this time. They know the waiting can be stressful; however, they are telling you to take a deep relaxing breath and appreciate what is before you right now. The time is coming for your prayers to be answered and your dreams to come true. You just need to hold on a little while longer with hope, faith, and trust in your heart.

Release your concerns to God and your angels, and allow yourself to rest easy. They will not deny you what you most desire in this lifetime. God and your angels support your love-based dreams and prayers. Allow them to do their work by taking care of yourself and your well being. If you have been working too hard, then take time out to play and enjoy yourself. If you have been letting responsibilities slide, then it is time to work on the tasks on your list. As you go about your activities, be open and receptive to the messages that will be sent to you via your intuition, as this is how your next steps will be provided for the manifestation of your dreams and prayers.

When you move forward with absolute trust in the positive outworking of your affairs through faith in your heavenly support team, you will be rewarded in ways that exceed your expectations. For now, place your hands over your heart and take a deep breath in through your nose. As the air enters your body, envision positive energy flowing into your spirit. As you exhale through your mouth, envision yourself releasing all negative and fearful thoughts and expectations. The negative energies will dissipate and be transformed into loving energy by your angels as they are released from your spirit. Repeat this breathing exercise at least three to five times or until you feel a peaceful calm settle over you. By doing so, you are freeing yourself from continual striving, stress, and worry in order to allow God and the angels to step into your situation.

Enjoy the blessing of this day. Your heavenly support team is by your side with each and every step that you take. Trust in their love, and have faith that they will correct situations for you by removing harmful influences or obstacles that are hampering your progress. It is time to welcome the positive into your life by appreciating the beautiful spirit that you are in an environment that is safe, and full of love and blessings.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Reacting Positively to Negative Circumstances

Cooperation

A healthy relationship is based on understanding, cooperation, and communication.

We were put here on this earth to help each other. Not everyone understands this concept. Turmoil erupts when fear overtakes emotions, driving people to take action based on such negative emotions as jealousy, greed, and selfishness. Instead of responding in kind with anger, we can break the chain of negativity by countering such behavior with understanding and kindness.

It is very challenging at times to counter negativity with positive actions because our own shock and pain need to be dealt with before we can proceed. Sometimes our first instinct is to lash out at the person or people who hurt us. If anger or pain is coloring your thoughts, take a few steps back from the source of the negativity. Look at the situation from all points of view through an honest assessment of the behaviors of both you and the party involved that led to the problem. Come up with ideas for solutions that would create the most positive resolutions for everyone involved.

First and foremost, be honest with yourself and the other person or people involved. Set up a time to talk about the situation from a standpoint of trying to resolve it in the most positive way for all. Present your ideas, actively listen to the feedback you receive, work through the issue by allowing each person to express their thoughts, and do your best to move past the problem. Remember to extend forgiveness and to release the issue, knowing that it has been resolved.

If in your contemplation or discussions, you realize that the best solution would be to end the relationship due to unreconcilable differences, bring it to close with kindness, grace, and honor. Wish them well, pray for their health and happiness, and move on with your life.

When you have your own moments of behaving badly, apologize to the person you hurt. Let them know that you are sorry and mean it by not repeating the same negative or hurtful behavior. This will go a long way toward mending your relationship. Forgive yourself, too. We are all human and make mistakes. But to be a better person, we need to learn from our mistakes and we need to treat ourselves and others with kindness.

Try to be the best person that you can be despite the turmoil around you. Take the high road and choose to counter negative situations with positive reactions. We cannot control all of the events that occur in our lives, nor can we control the behaviors of others. We can control our own actions and reactions, though, and decide to look beyond the negative behaviors of others by displaying understanding, kindness and grace in the face of adversity and turmoil. By doing so, you will notice the peace and calm in your own life. At the same time, you will be showing others that fears and turmoil are often based on misunderstandings that can be resolved, or even prevented, with compassion and empathy. In this way, we fulfill our soul contracts to help each other as we live our lives on this earth.

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com