Receiving Closure and Managing Grief Associated with the Loss of a Loved One

AngelYour loved ones in spirit and other members of your heavenly support team know when you are struggling to move through certain stages of the grief process. While grieving for the loss of loved one is healthy, becoming stuck in a certain stage of the grief process can be very detrimental to your life.

Four Stages of the Grieving Process
The four main stages of the grieving process, which I describe in detail in my book, How Have You Loved?, are outlined below:

  • Denial
  • Anger
  • Sadness
  • Acceptance

A person may fluctuate between the various stages before they reach the final stage of acceptance and peace with a loved one’s passing. Often, people spend a lot of time in the second and third stages of anger and sadness. The anger is usually directed at God for “taking them away” from you, and the great sadness is often for the physical loss of the person’s presence in your life. It is important to note that God does not punish us. He does not call your loved ones back home to heaven in retaliation for any of your actions, past or present. When a soul is called home, it is because it is the time that was agreed to prior to birth.

Agreements Prior to Birth
The time and the manner in which someone physically passes is determined before a person is born on earth. In heaven, we create soul contracts which outline the various lessons that we are going to learn on our spiritual journey on earth. Members of our soul groups, such as our immediate families, coworkers, extended family members, and more, work with us to create plans that will enable each of our souls to grow and reach their full potential.

Life Lessons
The lessons that are selected may require great sacrifices, such as leaving life on earth at an early age in order to help others to learn how to cope with the tragic loss of a loved one. Successfully working through the various stages of grief and learning to accept a person’s passing are two examples of the outcomes of lessons. There is help along the way, such as messages sent to you by your loved ones in spirit, people who enter your life to provide assistance, and books that offer knowledge that broadens your understanding that endings must occur in order for new beginnings to take place.

Answers with Perfect Timing
The relationships that you have with the people around you can offer you powerful resources for healing in ways that you have not even imagined. Our heavenly support teams support us and work through us on earth by placing people in our paths at the right time and the right place. Friends, loved ones, acquaintances, and even strangers may provide answers to our prayers with a perfectly timed call, visit, or meeting that gives us the information we need about our lives. Many times, these instances seem like amazing coincidences; however, there are no coincidences, but rather fantastic examples of coordinated efforts by our heavenly support teams to answer our prayers and requests.

Heavenly Support Teams Join Together
It is interesting to note that people who come to me for spirit medium readings have actually been prompted to do so by their heavenly support teams. Your loved ones in heaven contact the loved ones in heaven who are helping me with my work on earth. Together, they begin the collaboration process to facilitate our meeting with one another.

Your heavenly support team knows when and how you would benefit from direct communications from your loved ones in spirit and the angels, and they ensure that you receive information that prompts you to set up an appointment with a spirit medium. Usually the prompting is both internal and external. You may receive messages and signs that stir your curiosity about mediumship or a reading, and you may have seemingly coincidental experiences occur in which a friend suddenly starts talking about spirit communication, or you see or read something that piques your interest about heaven and receiving messages from the Other Side.

Additionally, your loved ones in spirit will chime in by placing signs in your path that remind you of them and to, hopefully, prompt you to seek out a spirit medium or knowledge that will help you to interpret the signs and messages they send you. To get your attention, your loved ones in spirit may send you signs in the form of objects or images that make you think of them, unusual electronic disturbances that alert you to their presence, music that touches your soul and answers your prayers, and scents piped into the air, such as their perfume or cigarette smoke. Your heavenly support team will also send you intuitive messages in their attempts to steer you toward a meeting with a particular spirit medium, book, or positive path for growth.

Free Will is a Beautiful Gift
What you do with your life lessons and the promptings you receive is your choice. You may choose to ignore the assistance that makes itself known in your life every day, or you can choose to open yourself to the growth and healing that is available. Your loved ones in heaven and your angels want to help you succeed, and they will do what they can to help you on your journey. When you choose to ignore lessons and assistance, you tend to make your journey on earth significantly more challenging for yourself. When you keep an open mind and embrace the mentality that life is a spiritual journey for the benefit of the soul, then you can learn how to live your life in a way that allows the greatest benefit while releasing self-imposed stress, grief, and sadness. The beauty of the gift of free will is that each one of us is given the power to control the choices we make that govern our lives.

You Can Take It With You!
Even though someone may be physically separated from you on earth, your relationship with that person, as well as the love you share, continues on. Your loved ones in spirit watch over you from heaven, they hear your thoughts about them, and feel the love that you send their way. In return, they continuously send you messages of love, healing, and guidance, as well signs that they are around.

Receiving Closure
Your loved ones in spirit know how you would benefit from receiving information that provides healing to your heart and your soul. When participating in a spirit medium reading, they will share with you their love, information about what they are doing in heaven, advice for you about your life, information that will help heal your heart and soul, and more. The peace and healing that comes from receiving direct messages from your loved ones in spirit through a spirit medium reading can provide comfort and closure to those who are grieving, as well as guidance and light for you and your loved ones on earth.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Receiving Divine Messages from Spirits in Heaven

Sunrise at HaleakalaAs a Spirit Medium, I help to connect people with loved ones that have crossed over into heaven, as well as with spirit guides, guardian angels, past spiritual masters, and archangels. Loved ones who come through in a reading include both people and animals. I am constantly delighted and amazed at the messages that come through, as well as the way in which they are communicated.

How Communications from Spirit are Received
When I communicate with spirits, all of my extrasensory senses are utilized. Through clairvoyance, or extrasensory seeing, I am shown motion and still images of the deceased, as well as images that have symbolic meaning for the recipient of the reading. Through clairsentience, or extrasensory feeling, spirits send me physical indicators about the way in which they passed, such as a short sharp pain in the area of my heart which indicates that his or her life ended due to a heart attack. Through clairaudience, or extrasensory hearing, I am able to pick up auditory messages that spirits want to pass along to you. The use of clairalience and clairambience allows me to pick up on messages that are sent through my sense of taste and smell. For instance, I recently had an experience in which the strong taste of cigar smoke came through in a reading. When I shared this information with the recipient of the reading, they confirmed that the loved one coming through was a cigar smoker. Lastly, messages are sent to me using claircognizance, or extrasensory knowing. This is information that is known within my spirit. It is not shared through any of the others senses, it is information that has been downloaded to my mind that I share with the recipient of a reading.

Messages Shared After Loved Ones Have Been Identified
Once a spirit has been clearly recognized by the recipient of a reading through the initial validation process in which identity-revealing information is transmitted, such as about physical characteristics and personality traits, then it is time to share the messages that the spirit wants you to receive. The messages often include love, asking for forgiveness, and comfort about the spirit’s arrival in heaven.

Truthful and Heartfelt Guidance from Heaven
Because these spirits are in heaven, and can better see and understand the process of life on earth, they often offer guidance about your life path. It is important to keep in mind that the gift of divine communication is not to tell you what you necessarily want to hear, but to share with you the truth. The messages you receive are of great importance to the growth of your soul. Because we have been given the gift of free will, it is always up to the recipient of the reading to decide whether to follow the advice that is gifted to them by his or her heavenly support team.

What Happens When You Choose to Ignore Messages from Heaven
Some people have a strong adverse reaction to the messages because it requires that he or she let go of anger, grudges, and negative thought processes that he or she has held onto for a long time. The spirits are telling the person this, not to make the him or her angry or upset, but rather to help this person to release harmful patterns that are holding him or her back from achieving personal happiness, and could even be causing the recipient of the reading emotional, mental, and physical distress. If a person chooses to ignore the messages that spirits have shared with him or her, the spirits will not give up on their quest to help this person. He or she will continue to come across situations that will challenge him or her to grow as a soul, and to open his or her heart and mind to a more positive life path.

What Happens When You Listen to Divine Guidance
I am very happy to report that most people are open to the messages that they receive from spirit during readings. They understand the priceless value of the heavenly guidance that has been given to them. Amazing transformations and events do occur in the lives of the people who do take the messages to heart. I know not only because I am one of them, but also because of the feedback I receive from thankful clients who tell me about the fantastic turn their lives have taken as a result of following the advice given to them by their loved ones in spirit.

Best Advice
When you are the recipient of a spirit medium reading, my best advice is to keep an open mind about who will come through for you, as well as the messages that they will deliver to you about your life. It is a gift of divine guidance and intervention that could completely turn your life around if you listen closely to the information that spirits are sharing with you. This information originates not from the spirit medium who is delivering it, because he or she is only the vessel through which the communication flows, but from your heavenly support team who views your life from a much higher perspective. They want to see you succeed with the life lessons you have chosen for this lifetime, and hope that you recognize the honor and the blessings that they have gifted to you through their heavenly communications with you.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Recognizing when a Problem is not Your Responsibility

Butterfly with Broken WingThere are situations that you will encounter in which it seems as though you are powerless to lend a hand. When facing a dilemma such as this, you can share your love, an empathetic ear, and your kindness. Gifts of the heart can have a profound effect on those that are struggling with life-altering decisions and emotionally painful conditions.

Choices that are Not Yours to Make
No matter how much you want to help someone, there are times when the only help you can offer comes from the heart. This may be because the choices that need to be made in the situation are not yours to make. A prime example would be relationship decisions that friends or relatives need to act upon, such as whether the time has come to break-up or divorce. Other examples include tough choices concerning medical conditions and the mental or emotional health of loved ones. It can be challenging to be an observer to someone else’s pain, especially when it seems as though you can do nothing to ease it.

An Important Contribution
As an observer of a difficult situation that your loved ones are experiencing, you can offer your love, kindness, your listening skills, and prayers. This kind of support can be an invaluable source of positive energy that is not only needed, but also desired. Advice and insight can also be offered; however, the person receiving it may or may not be receptive to it. This may be because he or she is having a hard time incorporating a new perspective. Stubbornness, a strong desire to control outcomes, lack of trust, or an ingrained sense of loyalty are often obstacles to a person’s ability to move beyond a problem. Moreover, even if you offer advice, it may not be an appropriate fit for the situation at hand because you may not be privy to all of the details. Do your best to avoid taking offense if your loved one does not utilize your well-meaning solutions because, ultimately, each person is responsible for his or her own choices. We all must live with the consequences of the decisions that we make. As an alternative to dispensing advice, try listening with empathy and allowing the person to talk about his or her feelings. This may be enough to help him or her to relieve some of the pressure surrounding the situation that is causing the angst.

Love Heals
Do your best not to underestimate or minimize the effect and power of love. Its positive energy can heal a broken heart, provide hope for the future, and offer comfort to those who are experiencing pain. Love is shared and communicated with one another through the heart of our soul. You can send that positive energy to your loved ones with your thoughts and prayers, as well as with physical expressions, such as a hug or soothing touch.

Even when it seems as though there is little that you can offer to someone who is struggling or suffering, remember that love is one of the best gifts that you can give…and it is an energy that you have an infinite supply of to share.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Knowing You’re Not Alone on Your Journey Through Life

Looking Toward HeavenHave you ever felt as though you are all alone in this world, facing the challenges of life? I have felt that in my lifetime, especially when I was going through a particularly tough time. It felt as though there was no one around who understood what I was going through or who could be there for me to listen or to provide comfort. I have learned that throughout my trials and tribulations, I have never truly been alone…and neither are you. You have a support system in Heaven that comes from the Creator, the Angels, your Spirit Guides, Past Spiritual Masters, and deceased loved ones. They are there for you. They see your struggles and worries. They hear your prayers. They feel your pain and want to ease it for you. They also share your joy and happiness. In essence, they are there for you in good times and in bad.

You can reach out to your heavenly support system at any time through prayer in thought, said out loud, or in writing. Ask them for help with the situation at hand. They hear you and will do what they can to answer your prayers, as long are they are in accordance with your soul plan and greater good. If what you are praying for will ultimately cause you greater sadness and pain, or send you down a path that would do more harm than good, your heavenly support team will do their best to guide you to better opportunities that meet your true needs and desires. For example, if you are praying for the return of a lost love and that person doesn’t return right away, it may seem as though your prayers weren’t heard or answered…but they have, just not in the way that you may think.

Sometimes it takes time for prayers to be answered. The timing is not based on what we think is best, but on the perfect timing for the evolution of our souls. Sometimes, too, we may not get what we asked for because there is something better coming along for us. Even though we do not always recognize the help that is materializing from our heavenly team, we can help ourselves by having patience and an open mind about how our prayers will be answered. With the situation involving a lost love, God and the Angels know that what you are really asking for is someone who will love and appreciate you for who you are. That person may or may not be ready to do that at the time of your prayer and/or there may be lessons that each of you still need to learn before progress can be made. It can also be that you were only meant to be together to learn particular lessons and now you need to move on. Or, the timing may be perfect for your souls to reunite and they will return to you. We can assist in the answering of our prayers by being mindful about our actions and looking at our experiences to see what lessons we need to learn from them. By taking responsibility for ourselves in this way, we are actively playing an important role in our soul’s evolutional process.

Keep in mind that our support team in Heaven sees and knows much more than we do here on Earth. They know everything about us and what would be best for the evolution of our soul. Therefore, when you ask for help know that they are working on your behalf and that they send you their love. They are always there for you when you need them…all you have to do is reach out with your thoughts and prayers, knowing that your heart’s desires have been heard and will be answered with the perfect timing that is guided by your support team in Heaven. In the meantime, find your center, be at peace with yourself, and know that you are not alone on your journey through this lifetime.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Unity, Peace and Love

Peace RoseIt was amazing and wonderful to see so many people working as one this week in the face of the tragic events in Boston. As two misinformed and misguided young men wreaked havoc in an attempt to devastate our country and its people, we stood shoulder-to-shoulder and helped each other physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

We drew together as a people and lent a hand to help those in need, to do what we could to restore order and calm. Citizens closest to the scenes gave physical aid and comfort, sent their pictures from the race to the authorities, and kept their eyes and ears open for signs of these men and potential threats to our peace. Those of us at a distance sent our prayers, reposted the pictures of the young men on social media outlets, and lent the support of our hearts, our wallets, and our life-giving blood. Furthermore, people in law enforcement and emergency responders went above and beyond the call of duty. They are to be commended for their quick, cooperative responses and actions in the face of such unstable conditions and adversity.

Instead of allowing fear to drive us apart, we pulled together as we did following the events of September 11th. As a nation and as beings who ultimately want to live in peace, we banded together to stop the spread of fear by countering it with love and assistance for our fellow people. We prayed, helped those in need, and cooperated with the professionals trained to protect our safety.

As I prayed for the people who were directly affected by the events and for our nation as a whole, I also prayed for these young men who were taught somewhere along the way that violence and hatred were the answers to life’s problems. I prayed to God and the Angels, asking them to help these men, and anyone else like them, to understand that fear-driven ideology is counterproductive and counterintuitive to our purposes here on Earth.

Each and every day, we can continually strive to live in unity and peace with one another by sharing the love and compassion within our hearts. The more we do this, the better the world will be for all of us. There will still be those that turn to violence and fear, but if we counter it like we did with the events of Boston this week, we will be able to more quickly counter, and even prevent, future events designed to devastate our peace.

My prayer today, and every day, is for all of us to live in Love and to help each other experience the Light within each and every one of our hearts. Blessings and peace to all.

With Light and Love,
Karen

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