How We Can Change the World

We are living through some very interesting times right now. There is great chaos, loneliness, and rage which swirls throughout our world, creating a negative and unpleasant pall over what could be a better life for all. Pervasive fear-based thoughts have the ability to obscure love and cause people to take hurtful actions toward one another. I think there are people who have forgotten how to love or are afraid of loving with their whole selves.

There is Honor in Love

It can be scary to think of how much pain someone can inflict on you by not loving you with similar caring. I know how much it hurts to face the unflinching truth that you have been loving someone with everything you have, only to come to the realization your love is not being returned. To experience multiple relationships in which love is denied breaks your heart and dims your light for a bit, as sadness threatens to creep in and take over. It is in these moments we can learn to love ourselves and to appreciate all that we gave in honor of love, in honor of another, and in honor of ourselves. Even though the other party did not reciprocate, it does not mean we are any less for the experience. If anything, we learned the ways we love. We learned how to recognize what we do not want in our lives. We learned how to stand up to diversity and challenges. We learned how to get up again after we stumble or fall. Because we WILL try again. Our hearts and souls were made from love and for love. There are people out there who will love us for who we are, who will understand us, who will be kind and caring, and who will respect the beautiful souls we are. Proof of this rests within our own hearts. If we have it, others have it. I have never regretted loving someone, even if the love I shared was not reciprocated. It is from those experiences I have learned. Most importantly, I know I gave it my all, was true to myself, and put forth my authentic self.

Be Your Authentic Self

In many ways, people hide their true feelings, are afraid to be themselves for fear of judgment, and may feel beaten down by life. Life is not an easy road. People will judge you, but that does not mean you need to take their judgments to heart. Examine where these judgments are coming from. Are they hurtful insults spouted out of fear from another person or are they truthful assessments of who you are? There are many obstacles we encounter in life, however, by being honest with yourself and letting your authentic self shine through without fear, you can truly enjoy a more satisfying existence. When life is lived on a surface level, you rob yourself of incredible experiences. Lack of depth acts as a shield, preventing love from getting through. It is only through risk that we achieve and receive the wonderful gifts of this world. Learning to move past fears opens up opportunities and welcomes in the potential for greatest experiences love can bring.

Loving Yourself and Others

Simple ways to show love include attentively listen when someone is speaking, being mindful of other people’s feelings by putting ourselves in another’s shoes, respecting and caring for one another as human beings who are on this tough journey together, being partners who work together toward common goals while also attending to our personal spiritual journeys, and giving from the heart. I say these are simple because we all have the ability within us to do these things; to take these actions. They cost us our time, but they do not cost us our love, because we have an endless supply of it. Life is actually so much more enjoyable when we love one another, when we know we can count on someone to be there for us and us for them. In order to do this, we must also love ourselves by showing ourselves the love and kindness we deserve. Work on halting negative self-talk by replacing it with positive affirmations about yourself. We all make mistakes. Learning from them and taking responsibility for them are two of the most important lessons we receive from making mistakes. Objectively examine the events which have taken place, including your role. Are there other actions you could have taken? If so, what would they be? How can you do better the next time? Have you sincerely apologized? Are you willing to work towards improving or eliminating the behaviors which caused the missteps? Remember to forgive yourself in order to give yourself the opportunity to move past the feelings of self-disappointment and progress toward self-improvement.

Forgiveness Mends the Soul

As for extending forgiveness to others, deeply consider their actions, as well as the genuineness of their request for forgiveness. Is this a person who repeatedly makes the same mistakes and has shown no desire to improve? Has this person severely crossed boundaries and inflicted great pain on yourself or others you love? Was there a miscommunication? Is this a person who truly has a desire to learn and grow from this situation? You will know the difference. You will know in your soul whether someone has your best interests at heart. Listen within to your own personal guidance system, known as your intuition, and pay attention to the red flags alerting you of any trouble. You can forgive. You can also make the choice not to spend time with a particular person. Forgiveness is not condoning. It is a releasing of pent up pain by letting go of the anger, resentment, and disappointment, and embracing a new path of freedom from pain with clarity and decisiveness. You do not need to invest more time in someone who is not willing to discontinue their behaviors or admit their actions were in error. Loving who you are also means knowing when to walk away from situations that are not in alignment with the way you want to be treated. You can release the situation and the residual pain by sending forgiveness from the heart of your spirit to theirs. You do not need to be in their presence to do this. By freeing yourself of these negative and unproductive energies, you provide yourself the opportunity to live a more satisfying and happy life by investing your time and energies into that which brings happiness to your soul.

When you do forgive someone and want to move forward with them, be kind. They know and have admitted wrongdoing. Give them a chance to show you they meant what they said. There are times when people slide backwards a bit, but as long as they continually strive to do better with genuine efforts, it may be worth it to give them another chance. You would want the same if you were in their shoes.

Reinvest in Love

I would love to see a reinvestment in love on this earth. Lately, there has been a significant emphasis on negativity and hurting one another. This trend can be countered with a tremendous amount of love. It starts with each and every one of us taking actions each day to not only show and share love, but also be open to receiving it by letting others into our hearts. As a society of people on a collective spiritual journey, we can help one another by lifting each other up, by loving who we are, and by loving others for who they are. Each interaction we have with one another can help us to take steps toward healing the epidemic of loneliness and rage that has crept into our world. Each act of kindness and genuine caring touches souls who then pass that along to the next soul. We have the power to change this world. Let us work together to be the positive change we want to experience on our collective spiritual journey.

Namaste!

With Love and Light,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, Spiritual Artist, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, spiritual artist, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through spirit medium readings and angel readings, speaking engagements, and workshops she instructs, as well as through her writing, Reiki, and fine art spiritual paintings. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.
 
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Psychic Amnesia: What Is It and Why Does It Occur During a Spirit Medium Reading?

QuestionsA spirit medium reading is a three-way system of communication in which a spirit communicates with a spirit medium, the spirit medium receives and transmits the information to the recipient of the reading, and the recipient identifies the loved one in spirit that is coming through and opens themselves up to the messages that are being shared. It is a cooperative effort that requires active participation from the being in spirit, the spirit medium, and the recipient of the reading.

At times, the recipient of the reading may not readily recall the person or animal who is coming through, or they may not immediately recognize the symbols or messages that are being shared. This phenomenon is often referred to as psychic amnesia. There are many reasons why this can happen, even when everyone involved is doing their best to ensure clear and concise communications.

Reasons Why Psychic Amnesia Can Occur

  • Only wanting to hear from one person
  • Concentrating only on people who recently passed
  • Thinking of your own perspective of the person, and not the perspective of the person coming through
  • Waiting for a code word, name, or specific message
    • No matter how much unique identifying information is brought through, some people will not believe that it is one of their loved ones in spirit unless they hear a specific word, name, or message.
  • In a group reading setting, some people do not want to be the center of attention
  • Denial based in fear
    • Some people do not want to revisit the pain of someone’s passing.
    • People have mentioned that they denied knowing the person coming through because they were fearful of the emotions that would be brought forth.
    • Some people may be uncomfortable with spirit communication because they do not understand how it works.
    • At times, people do not want to hear from a particular person due to painful situations encountered in life, and will, therefore, deny that they recognize them.
  • Fear of the unknown
  • Skepticism about spirit communication
    • People who have had negative experiences with people who were not authentic or genuine, or they may have heard stories from others about this, may not want to believe the information coming through.
    • Strong religious beliefs or teachings that deny that this type of communication exists or is a product of negative beings may be deeply ingrained in someone and they may not be receptive to the information being brought forth.
  • Thinking only of family, not friends, neighbors, associates, or others
  • Being awestruck
    • This can happen at any time, but most often when someone is sitting for a reading for the first time. It is as if their thinking mind has stopped functioning and they cannot even remember details about their own lives, let alone loved ones who have passed.
  • Not understanding how spirit communication works
    • Spirit communication is a complex process that involves the use of all of the spirit medium’s senses. People who are not familiar with the way it works may sometimes think that it is as simple as a fireside chat in which all information about a person’s life is easily shared.
  • Impaired judgment due to inebriation
  • Distraction
    • Thinking of other things and not living in the moment.
    • Not paying attention to the information that is being shared.
  • Fatigue
    • If someone is very tired or exhausted, it may be challenging for them to recall information or to recognize it when it is coming through.
  • Strong grief
    • Messages may be brought through but the person may be so distraught that they have a hard time hearing and digesting the messages.
  • Sometimes the information that is shared in a reading may be referring to a future situation that will be occurring
    • Loved ones in spirit and the angels may share visions and information about events that have not yet occurred. In this case, the person sitting for a reading would have no prior knowledge about events that have yet to be.

Ways to Sidestep Psychic Amnesia

  • Keep an open mind
    • You never know who is going to come through, nor can you anticipate the message that they will bring.
    • Your loved ones in spirit know who you need to hear from and why. Keep in mind that they view your life from an enlightened perspective and they bring through information that will bring healing, love and success for the evolution of your soul.
    • Be open to the information coming through because your loved ones in spirit are doing their best to share information using a very intricate communication process that involves the transference of their messages through the use of all of the spirit medium’s senses. It is not as clear-cut or as simple as a fireside chat.
    • Know that anyone that has passed can come through, including in-laws, friends, family, acquaintances, co-workers, relations whom you never met but who know you from watching over you from heaven, your pets and others whom you knew or visited, and more.
    • Be aware that acquaintances, friends, and coworkers from your past may want to come through to let you know just how much their relationship with you meant to them.
  • Release your fears and trust in the existence of higher powers
    • Receiving communications from your loved ones in spirit is an incredible experience that originates from the most powerful force in the universe—love. This amazing force comes from our Creator who wants nothing but the best for each and every one of us.
    • Be aware that fears are often an illusion that block us from achieving our dreams and living the lives we are meant to live.
  • Prepare for your spirit medium reading
    • Familiarize yourself with the process. I provide articles and brief videos to help people understand how spirit communication works. In addition, I explain how spirits communicate with me prior to each reading that I provide.
    • Know that spirit communication is a very complex process that involves the full participation and cooperation of you, your loved ones in spirit, and the spirit medium.
  • Record your reading and/or take notes
    • If you do not remember a person or symbol right away, there is a good chance that you will remember later or that the information that shared will be revealed at a time in the near future. Having notes or a recording will allow you to revisit the information shared within a spirit medium reading, which may trigger memories, or you can reference it when an event occurs that was mentioned in your reading.
  • Be awake, alert, and sober as this is a special form of communication that requires your active participation
  • Allow time to grieve before contacting a spirit medium for a reading
    • In the first stage of grief, which includes feelings of anger and denial of the person’s passing, it is best to wait until your heart and spirit have begun to heal and accept the person’s or pet’s passing.
  • Do not be too hard on yourself if you temporarily forget loved ones or certain symbols
    • Taking notes or recording your reading will help you to remember.
    • There may be a reason outside of yourself as to why you are not remembering information right away. For instance, my sister-in-law’s experience with psychic amnesia was an important catalyst for life-altering events that occurred in my own life. She was not recognizing messages coming through from my father, and because of that, I felt compelled to visit the same spirit medium to see what he had to say. If these events had not occurred in this way, I may not have re-awakened to my own gifts of mediumship.

Relax and Enjoy the Experience of a Spirit Medium Reading
Most of all, it is important to make the most of your spirit medium reading by relaxing and allowing the process to naturally unfold. If you open yourself up to this incredible form of communication, the healing of spirit that comes from a spirit medium reading can change your life in amazing ways. Enjoy the communications that are coming through from your loved ones in spirit, as they as are motivated by love, which is the greatest gift that can be transmitted from one being to another.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Your Self-Worth Is Not Measured by the Opinions of Others

Self-WorthHave you taken a non-judgmental look inside your heart and spirit to assess the traits that define the essence of who you are? Have you accepted all of those traits in a loving manner by embracing and recognizing the positive ones, and acknowledging the ones that need a little work? 

Self-Awareness and Love
Knowing who you are and loving who you are, are important factors for claiming the power within you that is rightfully yours. When you allow the negative words and actions of others to define you, you are giving other people the power to dim the light within you.

Determining the Reason behind Communications
There is a very big difference between someone providing you with constructive feedback and someone hurling insults and hurtful words at you. The clues to determining the difference are in the delivery and the motivation for the feedback.

When Love Is the Motivator
When people have your best interest at heart, they will speak to you in a respectful manner, and the thoughts they share with you come from the heart. The person who speaks with you in this manner is genuinely interested in your welfare, and would like to help you succeed.

When Fear Is the Motivator
On the opposite end of the spectrum, when people say vicious or mean things to you using sarcastic, biting, or angry tones, they are projecting their own negative feelings about themselves on you. The motivation for such behavior is based in fear. Often, it is because they envy what you possess and are afraid that they will never have it themselves. In this person’s mind, they mistakenly think that putting you down will raise themselves up. Instead of taking responsibility for themselves and their personal happiness, they lash out at you. When facing an onslaught such as this, you need to be strong enough in your own right in order to recognize the motivation behind this behavior, and to dismiss it as someone else’s fears and not a reflection of who you are.

How to Achieve the Best Results
In relationships and communications, it is love, self-love and love toward others, that creates the outcomes we desire. Coming from a place of fear or attempting to instill fear in others may temporarily achieve certain results; however, in the long-term, it eats away at the levels of trust and can ultimately destroy interpersonal relations.

How You Can Choose to React
When you encounter people who are operating from a place of fear instead of love, you can choose to dismiss their comments and hurtful behavior and move on with your life. Whether it was a momentary transgression or a more problematic aspect of someone’s behavior, try to take a more understanding and compassionate approach by knowing that each person is doing their best to grapple with the issues that we contend with on earth. We all make mistakes, and, hopefully, we learn from them. Within your heart, mind, and soul, forgive the person for their transgression, and wish them love, health, and happiness.

You Determine Your Self-Worth
All in all, when you love yourself for who you are and you operate from a standpoint of love, you can more easily recognize when someone’s behavior is motivated by his or her fears, and not genuine feedback that you should take to heart. Your self-worth is a value that is defined by you, and only you. The actions you take and the thoughts you share display to others the value you hold for yourself in your heart, mind, and spirit. Believe in you, and love who you are, because you are a beautiful light in this world who deserves an abundance of happiness and love.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

The Benefits of Building a Strong Relationship with God

Peace ValleyWhen you build a close relationship with God, you begin to see things through his eyes. It is a bond that is forged in love and nurtured through continual communication and trust. By stepping back and putting your complete faith in God and the outcome of all of your affairs, you are inviting him into your life with loving trust and friendship. As your relationship deepens, you begin to see how God truly does oversee your growth as a soul and how he steers your course as you navigate your way through this lifetime.

Great Plans
God already knows what your goals are and what you are to accomplish while you are here. That was carefully planned with your consent before you were born on this Earth. Your destiny includes a series of soul contracts that define the lessons that you are to learn. How you accomplish them, and if you do, is entirely up to you. Awareness of your contracts, as well as the knowledge that you have gained from a multitude of lifetimes, is masked by the ego when you are born. One of the tasks that we have as a spiritual being on a human journey is to break through the veil that appears to separate us from that knowledge and the universal truths that are accessible through soul communication.

Mistakes can be Beneficial
As we live our lives every day, God lovingly watches over us. He knows the paths our lives are taking and the effects of the choices we make, as well as the best way for us to go. He sees when we deviate from that path. He exerts his power with a loving hand to guide us back to the paths that are in line with our soul plans. As a Spirit in human form, we become frustrated when we see ourselves or others going down a path that will ultimately cause more pain. With God, he views our errors and mistakes as learning lessons. It is beneficial for us to view our setbacks and missteps in the same way. God extends great love and compassion toward our souls. We give ourselves the greatest gift of kindness and love when we extend the same courtesy toward ourselves and others.

Free Will and the Effects of the Ego
As our Creator and heavenly parent, God wants what is best for us. He also knows that as his children, we must be free to make our own choices in order to exist and grow as a spiritual being. That is why we have the gift of free will. Mistakes and errors are as much a part of the process as our greatest achievements. One of the most important aspects of our soul evolvement is to stretch ourselves beyond what we perceive to be our boundaries and limitations. To do that, we need to find the courage that is stored within ourselves to overcome the effects of the ego.

On Earth, we have been given the ego as a part of our human existence. It is the negative voice that challenges our decisions by injecting counterproductive thoughts into our heads. This is the voice of fear that impregnates our mind with doubts and worries. That voice was placed within our minds as a challenge to be overcome. When we elected to come down to Earth to live this lifetime, we did so in order to speed up the evolution of our souls. In Heaven, ego and fear do not exist. We learn lessons for the evolvement of our souls; however, it is from a completely different perspective.

We cannot escape from the ego while on Earth but we can learn to manage it, work with it, and minimize its negative effects. Recognition and acknowledgement of the negative thoughts and fears as an illusion is the first step in negating its effects. When you know within your heart that it is only a mechanism that is meant to challenge you, you can face it with positive determination and thoughts that override its influence.

It is a lifelong challenge to learn how to manage the ego because the ego only disappears completely when our physical bodies expire. However, managing its effects becomes easier over time if you work diligently to recognize its encroachment upon your happiness. We are not meant to live a life of misery, but one of joy and happiness. Our dreams are achievable in this lifetime. The only thing that holds us back are the illusions of fear that are planted there by our egos.

He is with You Always
You are not alone on your journey. God is there to oversee and lovingly direct your path. The best way to hear him is to invite him into your life. Speak with him, pray to him and with him, share your thoughts and your gratitude, ask for guidance, and be open to his answers. God resides within you. He does not punish you with seemingly negative situations. Some circumstances are part of a soul contract while others are the result of how we treat ourselves and others. Negative thoughts and actions ripple across the Earth, causing reactions and events that directly affect our lives. God sees this happening. He intervenes when it is appropriate for him to do so. There are times when lessons need to be learned. At those times, it may seem as though he is not listening or that he is punishing you with hurtful or painful situations. You might even ask “Why doesn’t he save me from this experience?” He may not be removing you from it because, if he did, it may hamper your growth as a soul and hurt you more in the long run.

When you feel that you are in need of assistance, call on God to help you get through the tough situations you face and be open to his guidance. The Archangels are there for you, too. Still the fears within yourself by embracing the love of God and know that he will ensure the best outcome for you. It may not be the outcome you had hoped and prayed for, but then again, maybe it will. Remain calm and feel the peace within your heart that is given with grace to you by God. His love permeates your being at all times. When you push past the negativity of the ego, you can feel love in its purest form. It is a glorious feeling of divine joy that is almost overwhelming in its power. When you experience it, you will know that it is sent to you directly from God.

Enjoy Your Life
As you build your relationship with God, your trust and faith are rewarded with spiritual strength, love, knowledge, and peace. As a result, you may find yourself emulating the very characteristics that God displays toward you, including a significant capacity to extend love, forgiveness, understanding, and compassion toward yourself and others.

My heart has found great peace through my relationship with God and it has transformed my life in ways I never even dreamed were possible. Share your love with God today and let him into your heart. In this way, you can experience the beauty and benefits of your divine relationship with God, our Creator, for yourself.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Bringing Out the Best in Yourself and Others

Joshua and FrankPeople thrive when compassion and love is extended toward them. I have always said that all Spirit needs, both here and in Heaven, is compassion and love.

People are fascinating. I love learning about each individual that I meet because everyone has such interesting and incredible stories, as well as talents and abilities, that bring wonder and light to this world. What I find, though, is that people get so caught up in negativity and everyday concerns that they forget all of those wonderful qualities that they do have and they forget to take the time to enjoy the activities that make their souls sing.

When interacting with people, be it the cashier at the convenience store or your best friend, the more genuine you are with yourself, the more you are genuine with others. It doesn’t matter if it is a one-minute or one-hour conversation, just be yourself and your own light will already be shining. When this happens, there is an ease of knowing who you are that allows you to speak with others from the heart. It is amazing to see how people light up and open up when you speak from your heart to their heart…you can see how their light shines brighter around them.

Heartfelt communication is about empathy, relating, listening, sharing and responding. Understanding and compassion come through when you take the time to truly acknowledge a fellow soul. It is the kindness that you bestow upon others in your interactions that uplift another soul, as well your own.

If you are having a bad day and your mood is really sour, try to take a moment before you spread that negativity to the next person you meet. Acknowledge to yourself that you are having a rough time and let go of the angst. If you need to talk to a friend to help you work through the issues, do just that. As for the many people you come into contact with throughout your day, do your best to consciously decide not to pass on that black cloud to someone else. Again, if you need help getting through a rough patch, ask for help from your friends and family. That is one of the reasons why they are in your life, to help you and for you to help them as we work though the many complex issues and lessons that we learn as our souls evolve.

The next time you meet someone, speak from the heart. Ask how they are doing and mean it. Think about what it is like to be them and what it would mean to you if someone was genuinely interested in what you had to say. You will be amazed at how easy it is to connect with other souls on a genuine level and how good it feels to be yourself. The person you communicate with benefits as well, because you are giving them the gift of compassion which brightens their day.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com