Having Trouble Making a Decision? The Answer Is Inside You

Decision-MakingFrom the moment you open your eyes each day to the time you close them to go to sleep, thousands of options and situations cross your path which require a decision from you. The decisions may be as simple as which toothpaste to buy, or as complex as which job offer you should accept. Each of the decisions you make has an impact on your life, and at times, the over-abundance of options may cause confusion as to which path to take or which option to choose.

A Built-In System for Discerning the Truth
When making any decision, it helps to be informed. Performing research can be very beneficial for the gathering of important information. This research can come from outside sources, such as the Internet, books, and knowledgeable people; however, you also have a built-in system that will help you make the choices that are in your best interest. This is where your intuition comes into play. Listening to your intuition, as well as the heart of your spirit, will lead you in the right direction. As you approach the crossroads of decision-making, your heavenly support team speaks to you through your spirit, and the messages are transmitted through intuitive and extrasensory senses.

Pay Attention to the Signs
If you are confused about which way to go, pay attention to the presence of red flags. Red flags are warning signals to you that can seem to be very subtle; however, if you are attentive and using your senses to guide you, you will be able to see, feel, and hear the truth that will guide you in a positive direction.

When you meet someone new, they will reveal who they are through their words, actions, and energy they share with you. When you get caught up in thinking about the future and your desired outcomes, there can be a tendency to overlook the clues and red flags that they are waving right in front of you in the present moment. For instance, you meet a new guy or gal that you are interested in, and you are completely enamored with them and enjoying the attention you are receiving. In the back of your mind, you may even be hoping that you and this person will be making a significant connection with one another that will lead to a long-term personal or business relationship. In your initial encounter, you will be receiving clues from this person about who they are, and whether or not this relationship will be good for you. Listen very closely to what this person is saying or not saying, how they are acting, and how you feel when you are around them.

Listen to the Messages Behind the Words
A person will reveal to you who they are and what they are interested in through the words they speak. For example, someone who is driven or motivated by money will focus his or her communications on that topic. You need to be actively listening to hear the true motivation behind this person’s words, because they may use flattery to distract your attention. They may even pressure you with strong tactics that attempt to invoke fear in you if you do not purchase his or her product or service on the spot, or go along with his or her plans. When conversation is heavily focused on material aspects, this person is most likely not interested in you or your best interests, but his or her wallet instead.

A person who is genuinely motivated to help you or to develop a relationship with you will not unduly pressure you. They will be interested in learning about you, whether it is for relationship purposes or to help you find a product or service that fits your needs. They will allow you time to make an informed decision. Even under conditions when an on-the-spot decision is required, you have the right to take a moment to process the information you received before making that decision. When someone strongly pressures you with fear-based tactics, it is a red flag because they do not want to give you time to think. They know that if you do, you will realize that this person does not have your interests at heart.

Interpreting Actions
On the surface, a person’s words may seem to be in accordance with your needs; however, this person’s actions may not match his or her words. Ask yourself:

  • Is the person you are interacting with treating you respectfully by being conscientious about your time, your needs, and your feelings?
  • Are they taking care of only his or her needs, or are they honoring yours as well?

The actions they take will reveal whether they truly care about you or if they are not interested in you as a person, but what you can offer them. Someone who does not have your best interests at heart will only be interested in taking care of himself or herself. People do make mistakes sometimes, and they can get wrapped up in their own worlds; however, if you have addressed your concerns with someone, and they do not take consistent steps toward improving the situation with you (taking one nice action and going back to ignoring your needs does not show improvement but a temporary effort to placate you), then they are truly not vested in developing a positive relationship with you.

Energetic and Emotional Clues
Your body and emotions will chime in and give you sensory clues for decisions you are facing. Many people refer to this as heeding your “gut instincts.” That is because the seat of your intuition is the solar plexus chakra, which is located in the region of your stomach. Paying attention to how you feel, such as calmness or anxiousness, as well as being sensitive to the feel of the energy that surrounds a situation or person, can provide you with helpful guidance in the decision-making process.

When you are around someone, pay attention to how his or her energy feels:

  • Are you picking up a negative vibration that is pushing you away or do you feel a positive connection that makes you feel very comfortable in his or her presence?
  • How about when you are purchasing a product or service? Are you strongly hesitating to buy it, or do you feel calm and confident about the choice you are about to make?

Positive energy radiates happiness, calm, peacefulness, and a sense of security. On the opposite end of the spectrum, negative energy feels heavy and uncomfortable. There is an old expression about feeling “tension that you can cut with a knife.” Whoever coined that phrase was very aware of the stress and negative energy that surrounded the situation they were facing.

As a note, both positive and negative energies are contagious. The more aware you are of your own energy, as well as that of others, the more you will be able to prevent yourself from being sucked into another person’s moods. Awareness will also help you become more proficient at determining the source of energy for decision-making purposes.

Putting It All Together
By attentively listening to the words a person shares, paying close attention to his or her actions, and picking up on the energy that you feel, you will be able to better navigate your way through the decision-making process. Combine the information you have received through your senses in order to determine the right path for you. Believe in yourself, and trust that your higher-self and your heavenly support team are assisting you to see, hear, and feel the signs in any situation. By heeding your intuition and following your heart, you will steer yourself in a positive direction that honors you and your needs.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Ending Situations That Bring You More Harm than Good

Challenging Relationship SituationEach one of us has experienced painful and challenging situations that we wanted to end, such as an unhealthy relationship or job situation. Fear of the unknown or of loss can sometimes make us feel as though we are trapped with no pathway to freedom and happiness. The illusion of being caged in is a product of our egos, the negative voice of fear that does its best to prevent us from believing in ourselves and our dreams. It will keep you locked in its dark grip if you allow those fearful thoughts and emotions to rule your life. The choice is entirely up to you.

In each situation you encounter, there are positive resolutions available. The challenge is to quiet the negative voice of the ego, in order to look at the situation from a more objective point of view. Nothing in this world is impossible. It is our beliefs, thoughts, and motivations that determine our destinies. While you may not be able to control external factors, you can control how you act and react to situations you encounter on a daily basis.

When you are faced with an important decision, take the time to think about your true desired outcomes. At the heart of it all, what is it that you really want? Is it a job in which you can utilize your skills in an environment that is supportive of you and your career goals? Is it a loving relationship in which you and your partner enjoy mutual respect, love, and passion?

Take an objective look at your current situation. Are you already receiving what you desire but have not been recognizing it because of petty disagreements and nitpicking? Or is your job or relationship truly dissatisfying at a very deep level because your essential needs and desires are not being met? Have you shared your concerns with your employer or partner? Are they willing to work on improving the situation or have your requests for cooperative efforts been ignored?

If small issues are clouding your vision, these can be worked on as they are temporary problems that can be overcome with compassion, forgiveness, and efforts to meet each person’s needs within the situation. If the problem is much larger than that and your requests for assistance have gone unanswered, then this is an important sign that a significant change needs to be made. You need to decide whether it is better for you to remain miserable or to end the situation in a respectful manner and take a chance on the unknown with the hope and belief that there are opportunities for better jobs or relationships for you.

Making a significant change in your life does require a leap of faith. It may seem as though it is an uphill battle, and some sacrifices will need to be made; however, if you make these changes for yourself, you and others in this situation will be rewarded in the end because you are taking responsibility for your own happiness, which will also release others to find theirs. Taking this leap requires that you trust and believe in yourself, your feelings, and your ability to make decisions that are in alignment with your soul plan.

You do not have to walk your path alone. God and the angels are there to help you during this time of transition. Share your true desires and intentions with them. Let them know what it is that you really need or are looking for in your relationships or job situations. They know your heart and hear your thoughts.

God and your angels want what is best for you. They will answer your prayers if you allow them to step into your situation. The answers they provide will come through your intuition, repetitive thoughts or ideas, and external signs. Pay attention to the conversations that you have with others, the songs that you hear, repetitive symbols and signs that have meaning for you, and your gut feelings. These are some of the methods that they will chose to send their answers to you. For instance, a stranger may start up a conversation with you in line at the grocery store and he mentions that he is so much happier now that he ended a relationship or left a dead-end job situation, friends or acquaintances may tell you about a job opportunity that matches your skills, or you may even meet someone who has many of the characteristics you desire in a romantic partner.

As you release the past, and extend forgiveness toward yourself and others for situations that did not work out the way you envisioned, remain alert and aware of the messages you are receiving. In this way, you will be guided toward situations that are much better suited to you and the outcomes you desire.

With great blessings, love, and peace to those of you who are facing important crossroads in your lives. May you see the light that is guiding you toward your dreams and true happiness within your heart.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com