The Truth about Fearmongering

FearSome people, out of misunderstanding or lack of knowledge, place a negative connotation on the presence of spirits on earth. Beings in spirit are here to help, not harm. When people negatively misinterpret actions on the part of spirit, it has the potential to unnecessarily create an environment of hysteria. These unfortunate actions do much more harm than good. At times, the people creating this mess do so as an attention-getting tactic. They love drama and love to stir the pot by making up and sharing untruths and outlandish embellishments of minor, harmless events. My best advice is to listen well and use your intuition to determine whether someone is genuine, telling tall tales, or speaking out of fear due to a lack of knowledge. Throughout the thousands of experiences I have had with spirits, including the spirits of those who have committed heinous crimes while living on earth, I have only encountered a genuine desire to communicate in order to bring understanding, love, and healing to people and situations.

How the Media and Fictional Sources Perpetuate Untruths

Many ghost hunting shows, horror movies, books, and other mainstream media outputs thrive on instilling fear in their audiences. Like thrill-seekers and adrenaline junkies, they know that generating fear gets the adrenal glands flowing, creating a sensationalist output that draws viewers and readers. Unfortunately, while it may boost ratings and sell books, it also spreads untruths about the true essence of spirits and their purposes. Moreover, feeding into people’s fears creates hysteria, which is a heightened state of excitement based on illusion. As with the people who lie or embellish the truth to get attention, these behaviors can be very irresponsible when passed on as truths, because they are shared without concern about the overall effect or outcome to people’s lives. It is solely about garnering attention, not about communicating the truth.

Unethical People in Every Field

Unfortunately, there are some unethical people who are misinformed about the purpose of spirit in our lives, as well as the way they operate. While there are unethical people to be found in every business and service sector, it is very disturbing when they present themselves as psychics, mediums, or healers. Not only does it take advantage of and hurt the people who go to them seeking help, but it also casts a tarnishing pall on truly gifted psychics, mediums, and healers.

Sensationalists Use Fear Tactics to Garner Attention

Dishonest people often use fear tactics that prey on the vulnerabilities of uninformed people to try and get them to part with their money or to garner attention. For instance, they may state that a negative entity has “attached” itself to you and you must pay a lot of money to have it removed, or that someone placed a “hex” or “curse” on you that will cost hundreds to thousands of dollars to release it from your spirit. These are dangerous and irresponsible falsehoods existing only in the imagination of the person speaking of it. The idea of curses and hexes comes from ancient folklore and old wives tales that have been passed down from generation to generation of misguided people who would rather perpetuate fear than search for the truth. It is time to let go of these archaic concepts and move forward with a higher understanding of human behavior.

Curses Are Fake

When people tell you a curse is the reason for your misfortunes, they are giving you an excuse. For some, it is so much easier to blame someone else, such as someone who has behaved badly towards you in the past, than it is to take responsibility for one’s own actions. Challenging circumstances do not come from curses, but from life lessons you agreed to prior to your birth. Hard times can also come from your own behaviors when dealing with life lessons. For instance, I know of someone who fully believed they were cursed because their business was failing and a “friend” told them it had to be because of a curse. After hearing their story and assessing the facts, it was determined that the business was failing not because of a “curse,” but because of poor business practices. It was much easier for this business person to put the blame on someone else placing a “curse” on them than it was to take an honest, healthy look at their own behaviors. Moreover, the self-defeating acceptance of the “curse” provided no motivation to even try to improve the situation. After a long talk, this person was able to see the true reasons behind the failures and was able to develop and work on a business improvement plan.

Love Reigns Supreme

When communicating with people, use your intuition as your guide. If a situation does not feel right or seems out of sync to you, there may be a problem, especially if someone is trying to pressure you into a decision using fear tactics. When spirits make their presence known to us in our lives, it is all about love, healing, and guidance. People who try to intimidate or scare you with fear regarding spirit are only doing so out of misguided notions or selfish motivations. Listen to your heart and intuition when it comes to situations like these, and keep in mind that while the illusion of fear can be strong, love and its power to heal, is stronger.

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing, Reiki, and fine art spiritual paintings. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.
 
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How to Experience Heaven on Earth

Hamilton PondDo you remember what life was like when you were a child? Do you remember the simplicity of your days and having the belief that anything was possible? As we grow, our responsibilities increase, we experience hardships, and we learn lessons about love and loss that may harden our hearts and block us from the magical possibilities that are a part of our existence each and every day.

Fear is the Ultimate Block

The human ego, which is the seat of our fears and insecurities, tries to protect us from further emotional pain by reminding us of our past hurts. It can be a very persistent and persuasive voice that tells us not to try again or that taking risks is hopeless because it will only bring pain, rejection, and disappointment. As well-meaning as the human ego can be, it can also be very detrimental if we grant it too much power over our lives.

Taking Risks Brings Rewards

The gift of the human ego was given to us as a challenge we are meant to learn to effectively manage. We cannot rid ourselves of it while residing on this earth, because it is as much a part of our physical existence as our human bodies. The best we can do is to learn how to recognize its influence in our daily decisions, thank it for its presence, and learn how to move beyond the limitations it tries to instill upon us. By taking risks and believing in the positive rewards that come from living our dreams, making new friends, and opening ourselves up to love relationships, we do expose ourselves to potential emotional pain. At the same time, though, we grant ourselves the opportunity to experience the greatest satisfaction and love that we can achieve in this lifetime.

Forge Ahead with Loving Power

By forging ahead with the loving power within our souls, we are fulfilling our destinies for this lifetime. To do this, you must know and love yourself first, believe in who you are, and move forward without fear. Silence the inner critic of the human ego that tells you that you are not good enough or that other people’s opinions and emotions are more powerful and important than your own. Are other people living your life? No. Do they know what it is like to be you? No. Remember, other people’s fears come to the surface, and they may try to press them upon you because they are afraid you might get hurt or they may inwardly feel jealous that you are willing to take risks. Again, these fearful emotions are coming from that persistent voice of the human ego. Our job is to learn how to recognize when we are receiving sound advice or information based on fact, and when we are receiving advice or information that is based solely on fear.

Choosing to Refocus

Once your human ego awareness filter has been activated, you can begin to experience the magic of heaven on earth. What other people think of you is not going to matter so much anymore. You can recognize when the human ego is trying to prevent you from living the life you are meant to live, and you can move right past the fears it throws in your path. This does not mean that you will never experience fear, it means that you have discovered the key to managing it. Emotional pain is a part of life, but it does not need to rule you. It does not last forever unless you choose to allow it to do so. The key part of that statement is the ability to choose. You are in control of your choices. How you choose to live is entirely up to you. When you are feeling stuck or fearful, that is the time to let go and let God. Enjoy simple pleasures in life, much like you did when you were a child. Sit or walk outside and enjoy the fresh air. Nature is one of the best rejuvenators. Immersing yourself in its beauty and appreciating the gifts of this earth will help remind you that life on earth can be beautiful when we take the time to recognize it. Release your concerns, regrets, and worries, and just be for a while. We all need time to refresh in order to shift our focus to what truly matters…the simplicity of being, of loving, and of knowing that we are loved in return by God and the universe.

Heavenly Help

I experience the magic every single day of my life. I constantly receive messages from heaven that provide me with guidance, comfort, and love. I am not the only one who can experience this. As a spirit medium, I am clearly tapped in to the energies of heaven; however, we all possess this gift to some degree. We are all connected to one another, both here and in heaven, through the heart of our spirits. Our heavenly support teams of loved ones in spirit, God, and the angels, fully support us every day with their love and guidance. They know how challenging life can be on earth, and they want to help us succeed on our journeys. By opening yourself up with faith, love, and confidence to the guidance and messages that come from your heavenly support team, you can experience the magic as well. Communications via our spirits is performed through all of our senses, and the more you learn about how it works, the better you will be at recognizing heaven’s presence on earth.

Learning More

If you are looking to learn about spirit communication, there are many resources available, including my book, How Have You Loved? Choose resources that resonate with you, and enjoy your journey.

Extraordinary Magic

There is so much more to life than meets the eye. I truly wish that everyone could see the universe the way I see it, and by sharing the knowledge and perspective I have gained through my communications with heaven, I hope to help as many people as possible to understand and experience the extraordinary magic within each one of us. If the human ego had its way, we would all live in fear, tied up in the mundane worries of grocery lists and other people’s opinions. There is magic out there in the world that expands well beyond the surface of our existence on earth, and the only way to experience it is to let go of your fears and believe.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing and Reiki. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.
To learn more about Karen, who is based in Horsham, Pennsylvania, and her book, How Have You Loved?, visit her website at www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com.

Healing from Childhood Abuse: A Very Personal Journey with Divine Purposes for the Soul

ChildSuffering from abuse as a child, whether it is verbal, physical, or sexual, can have a significant impact on your life as an adult. Often, people who are abused at a young age experience problems relating with others on a personal level. This is because their earliest experiences with relationships brought them pain, and eroded their trust and belief in others. The very people who were supposed to love and protect them introduced them to a world of hurt instead. Because of this treatment early in life, there are special challenges that people who are abused face regarding self-esteem, feelings of abandonment, a lack of feeling safe and loved, and the ability to trust others.

Fear of Retribution Leads to Underreporting and Unhealthy Relationships
Often, cases of abuse go unreported. Children who are abused are usually threatened by their abusers with more pain, or even death, if they tell someone about the horrors that they are living through. The people committing the abuse may also put the responsibility for the abuse on the children by telling them that it is their fault it is happening. Because children are in the formative stages of social development and look to adults for behavioral cues, they often accept the blame and internalize the resulting pain and confusion. Therefore, children often suffer in silence. In their minds, they are afraid to tell anyone and often pretend that they are happy, even when they are suffering. They become masters at hiding their feelings by keeping problems and secrets to themselves. They also may come to believe that their feelings are not as important as those of others, and may often put the needs of others before their own. These learned behaviors are a direct result of the way their abusers treated them. Tragically, this forms a skewed and damaged basis for future relationships for many of these children.

Healing Over a Lifetime
The personal journey of healing from childhood abuse may involve a lifetime of searching for peace, trust, safety, and love. Forgiveness plays a very important role in the healing process, as does learning how to love who you are. As adults, we can look back and try to make peace with what has occurred by extending forgiveness to all who have hurt us. Remember, forgiveness does not mean that you condone hurtful actions, it means that you consciously release painful situations in order to move forward with your life and growth. You may even get to the point where you see how these events made you more compassionate and empathetic toward others. Therapy and self-help books may also play an important role in working through the pain by learning how to relate to others and to build trust. Even though these steps may be taken, some people may still experience difficulties in their relationships. Because of the damage from the past, certain issues may trigger negative memories and, therefore, cause guards to be raised due to a perceived threat to their emotional or physical safety. Left unaddressed, the angst may build to unprecedented levels. The pressure may cause that person to withdraw from relationships, become depressed or even suicidal, lash out at others for seemingly no reason, express extreme fear or distrust, engage in unhealthy behaviors, cause self-inflicted pain, or exhibit other negative behaviors that are not easily comprehended by others.

Support and Love from Above
The true pathway to freedom from the effects of childhood abuse begins from within. It is a very spiritual and personal journey. People who are or have been abused need to know that their feelings matter, that their voice is heard, and that they are safe and loved. They also need to know that their experiences were not a punishment from God. As a person who has experienced childhood abuse firsthand, I know this journey well. I have traversed every aspect of its effects and have searched high and low for the reasons, as well as how I can heal and get back the trust and feeling of safety that was taken from me. From the depths of my soul, I have searched for ways to help myself and others with these issues. Therapy has helped; however, the most powerful answers and guidance I have received have come from my heavenly support team, including God. In order to receive the information, I had to go within and pay attention to what they were communicating with me through my soul.

My First Meeting with God
The first time God came to me, I was struggling with relationship issues. I felt like I was running on a treadmill of recycling negative issues and going nowhere fast. I was getting mad at God and asking why I was experiencing the same issues over and over again. In great despair one night, I cried myself to sleep, feeling hopeless and broken. When I woke up the next morning, I laid in bed not ready to get up yet and face the day. It was then that I experienced an incredible wash of love that came over me, accompanied by a brilliant white light that filled my vision. The feeling and the light were so strong and all-encompassing that I knew it was not of this earth. I knew in my soul that it was God sending his love directly to me, and that he wanted me to know, without a doubt, that I was loved. It was such a profound and magnificent experience that I never wanted it to end. Even now as I write about it, that feeling of love is still there, and I know that I can reach out and feel it in my soul whenever I need help. It was God’s way of telling me that he loves me and is always there for me whenever I need him.

My Second Meeting with God
The second time God came to me was during a similar time a few years later. I was getting so mad at God and asking him why he was testing me with painful situations over and over again. I felt I had suffered enough in my lifetime, and I wanted to know why he felt it necessary to keep torturing me. As before, I cried myself to sleep. The next morning, I awoke and did not get out of bed right away. As I lay there, I had a vision of being carried in God’s arms up a large, white staircase which looked like it was made of marble. God was carrying me like he would a baby, cradled in the safety of his arms and wrapped in his love. He was wearing a long and flowing white robe with a sash cinched at the waist. At the time, I could not see his face. As he carried me up the steps, he assured me that he was not testing me. He said he was my father and, like a father, it was not his job to step in and save me from all of the difficult situations I encountered. If he did, I would not learn or grow. He said it was hard to watch me struggle, but he knew that if he stepped in it would do me more harm than good. God told me he loved me and that he was always there for me, even when he could not intervene. He also said we are to love one another as he loves us—unconditionally, and that it is our connection with one another that makes us strong. As he climbed the wide steps, I could see a landing and then a second set of steps extending up to a place where a blinding white light shone. It actually hurt my eyes to look at it. I knew with all of my soul this was the light of heaven, and that it was not my time to go there yet. As we reached the first landing, I noticed two white thrones sitting side by side. They were exact replicas, except in size. God set me down on the landing and sat in the larger throne while guiding me to sit in the smaller throne to his left. He reached his left hand out and took my hand in his. Without words, we sat holding hands like old friends sitting together in the comfortable silence of each other’s company.

Profound Experiences Lead to Profound Understanding
Those profound experiences with God shook up my world. My understanding of why we are here and what we are meant to accomplish started to open up. There was never a doubt in my mind that God exists, I just was not sure of what his role was in my life until then. Instead of seeing God as the one responsible for my pain, I saw him as a friend, a father, and an almighty being who loved me enough to know when to step back and let me grow. Through further exploration with my heavenly support team, I received messages about the soul contracts we make before we are reborn on earth. Many of these contracts contain agreements to experience difficult circumstances in order to grow as souls. Instead of viewing my abuse as a karmic punishment from God, I saw it as a profound experience for learning how to reconnect with the heart of my spirit and to understand our true reasons for being.

Misguided, Not Evil
On an important note, the people who commit the act of abuse are not inherently evil. They are misguided human beings who also have difficult lessons to learn in their lifetimes. Believe it or not, we made the agreement through a soul contract to experience painful circumstances that were meant to push each of us to learn and become better people. Whether we actually do learn and grow is entirely up to each individual. For those who are abused, there are many lifetime lessons including learning how to reconnect with the beauty of our souls, how to forgive, and how to trust in God and others. People who have committed abuse have lifetime lessons of their own, including learning about how hurting others hurts themselves, how to respect and honor the self and others, as well as how to overcome the internal shame and pain of mistreating others.

Reconnecting with Your Heavenly Support Team
Whether you have been abused, committed abuse, or are in relationships affected by abuse, we are all here to learn lessons about love, forgiveness, and compassion. We can help each other in positive ways by speaking and working from the heart, and reconnecting with the best friends we will ever have – ourselves and God. You and God are together on this journey, and it is a relationship that is built upon love and trust. I did not always trust God because of the difficult experiences I had in my life, but now I do, and I find I have more peace in my heart than I have ever had before. This does not mean I no longer fall back from time to time into feelings of angst. It means I am quicker to recognize and understand why I am experiencing upsetting emotional reactions. I now know how to better handle the situations that trigger those feelings. Trust and love is built. Sometimes it takes baby steps to get there, especially when you have experienced hurtful circumstances during the foundational years of your life. Your guys and gals in heaven have your back, and they will help you. Your job is to trust in their assistance, and follow through on the guidance you receive from them through repeated signs and messages.

May Peace be with You
Be at peace, and know that everything you experience has a divine purpose. God is not punishing you; rather, he is helping you to grow into the beautiful being that you are today. Our job is to help ourselves and others to heal through compassion and love, as well as through faith in the divine circumstances that help us to grow as souls.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing and Reiki. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.
To learn more about Karen, who is based in Horsham, Pennsylvania, and her book, How Have You Loved?, visit her website at www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com.

Psychic Amnesia: What Is It and Why Does It Occur During a Spirit Medium Reading?

QuestionsA spirit medium reading is a three-way system of communication in which a spirit communicates with a spirit medium, the spirit medium receives and transmits the information to the recipient of the reading, and the recipient identifies the loved one in spirit that is coming through and opens themselves up to the messages that are being shared. It is a cooperative effort that requires active participation from the being in spirit, the spirit medium, and the recipient of the reading.

At times, the recipient of the reading may not readily recall the person or animal who is coming through, or they may not immediately recognize the symbols or messages that are being shared. This phenomenon is often referred to as psychic amnesia. There are many reasons why this can happen, even when everyone involved is doing their best to ensure clear and concise communications.

Reasons Why Psychic Amnesia Can Occur

  • Only wanting to hear from one person
  • Concentrating only on people who recently passed
  • Thinking of your own perspective of the person, and not the perspective of the person coming through
  • Waiting for a code word, name, or specific message
    • No matter how much unique identifying information is brought through, some people will not believe that it is one of their loved ones in spirit unless they hear a specific word, name, or message.
  • In a group reading setting, some people do not want to be the center of attention
  • Denial based in fear
    • Some people do not want to revisit the pain of someone’s passing.
    • People have mentioned that they denied knowing the person coming through because they were fearful of the emotions that would be brought forth.
    • Some people may be uncomfortable with spirit communication because they do not understand how it works.
    • At times, people do not want to hear from a particular person due to painful situations encountered in life, and will, therefore, deny that they recognize them.
  • Fear of the unknown
  • Skepticism about spirit communication
    • People who have had negative experiences with people who were not authentic or genuine, or they may have heard stories from others about this, may not want to believe the information coming through.
    • Strong religious beliefs or teachings that deny that this type of communication exists or is a product of negative beings may be deeply ingrained in someone and they may not be receptive to the information being brought forth.
  • Thinking only of family, not friends, neighbors, associates, or others
  • Being awestruck
    • This can happen at any time, but most often when someone is sitting for a reading for the first time. It is as if their thinking mind has stopped functioning and they cannot even remember details about their own lives, let alone loved ones who have passed.
  • Not understanding how spirit communication works
    • Spirit communication is a complex process that involves the use of all of the spirit medium’s senses. People who are not familiar with the way it works may sometimes think that it is as simple as a fireside chat in which all information about a person’s life is easily shared.
  • Impaired judgment due to inebriation
  • Distraction
    • Thinking of other things and not living in the moment.
    • Not paying attention to the information that is being shared.
  • Fatigue
    • If someone is very tired or exhausted, it may be challenging for them to recall information or to recognize it when it is coming through.
  • Strong grief
    • Messages may be brought through but the person may be so distraught that they have a hard time hearing and digesting the messages.
  • Sometimes the information that is shared in a reading may be referring to a future situation that will be occurring
    • Loved ones in spirit and the angels may share visions and information about events that have not yet occurred. In this case, the person sitting for a reading would have no prior knowledge about events that have yet to be.

Ways to Sidestep Psychic Amnesia

  • Keep an open mind
    • You never know who is going to come through, nor can you anticipate the message that they will bring.
    • Your loved ones in spirit know who you need to hear from and why. Keep in mind that they view your life from an enlightened perspective and they bring through information that will bring healing, love and success for the evolution of your soul.
    • Be open to the information coming through because your loved ones in spirit are doing their best to share information using a very intricate communication process that involves the transference of their messages through the use of all of the spirit medium’s senses. It is not as clear-cut or as simple as a fireside chat.
    • Know that anyone that has passed can come through, including in-laws, friends, family, acquaintances, co-workers, relations whom you never met but who know you from watching over you from heaven, your pets and others whom you knew or visited, and more.
    • Be aware that acquaintances, friends, and coworkers from your past may want to come through to let you know just how much their relationship with you meant to them.
  • Release your fears and trust in the existence of higher powers
    • Receiving communications from your loved ones in spirit is an incredible experience that originates from the most powerful force in the universe—love. This amazing force comes from our Creator who wants nothing but the best for each and every one of us.
    • Be aware that fears are often an illusion that block us from achieving our dreams and living the lives we are meant to live.
  • Prepare for your spirit medium reading
    • Familiarize yourself with the process. I provide articles and brief videos to help people understand how spirit communication works. In addition, I explain how spirits communicate with me prior to each reading that I provide.
    • Know that spirit communication is a very complex process that involves the full participation and cooperation of you, your loved ones in spirit, and the spirit medium.
  • Record your reading and/or take notes
    • If you do not remember a person or symbol right away, there is a good chance that you will remember later or that the information that shared will be revealed at a time in the near future. Having notes or a recording will allow you to revisit the information shared within a spirit medium reading, which may trigger memories, or you can reference it when an event occurs that was mentioned in your reading.
  • Be awake, alert, and sober as this is a special form of communication that requires your active participation
  • Allow time to grieve before contacting a spirit medium for a reading
    • In the first stage of grief, which includes feelings of anger and denial of the person’s passing, it is best to wait until your heart and spirit have begun to heal and accept the person’s or pet’s passing.
  • Do not be too hard on yourself if you temporarily forget loved ones or certain symbols
    • Taking notes or recording your reading will help you to remember.
    • There may be a reason outside of yourself as to why you are not remembering information right away. For instance, my sister-in-law’s experience with psychic amnesia was an important catalyst for life-altering events that occurred in my own life. She was not recognizing messages coming through from my father, and because of that, I felt compelled to visit the same spirit medium to see what he had to say. If these events had not occurred in this way, I may not have re-awakened to my own gifts of mediumship.

Relax and Enjoy the Experience of a Spirit Medium Reading
Most of all, it is important to make the most of your spirit medium reading by relaxing and allowing the process to naturally unfold. If you open yourself up to this incredible form of communication, the healing of spirit that comes from a spirit medium reading can change your life in amazing ways. Enjoy the communications that are coming through from your loved ones in spirit, as they as are motivated by love, which is the greatest gift that can be transmitted from one being to another.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Five Essential Actions to Turn Your Dreams into a Reality

Turning Dreams into RealityThe dreams you hold in your heart are like an eternal flame that lights up your spirit and illuminates the paths that you will take in life. The flame is always lit; however, it is up to you to determine how brightly it shines. I would like to share with you five powerful actions that are essential to stoking the flame of your dreams to the brightest of heights.

Provide Service from the Heart
Speak and work from the heart at all times. Remind yourself of the reasons behind your dreams. Why are you doing what you are doing? Is your main purpose to bring joy, happiness, healing, and light to others? When taking action toward your dreams, whether it is interacting with others or taking care of administrative details, hold your intention within your heart. By doing so, you will naturally take the most beneficial actions toward your dreams, and you will be rewarded with personal fulfillment that comes from providing service from the heart.

Give and Receive with Grace
Give of yourself from the heart. When you give, do so without the expectation of receiving anything back but the satisfaction and joy that comes from giving. Know that you will be the recipient of unexpected gifts from the universe that will be given at the perfect time and place in your life. Remember to include yourself in the giving cycle. Be attentive to your own needs, and give yourself the gifts of time for relaxation, joy by participating in fun activities you enjoy, and love by appreciating the beautiful light of your soul.

When receiving a gift, be gracious and thankful, knowing that you are fully deserving of the abundance being conferred upon you. There is always balance in the universe. For every action, there is a reaction, and for every gift you give, you will receive one in return if you remain open and receptive to the flow of love to and from the heart of your spirit.

Gifts given and received may be in the form of physical objects, services granted, opportunities, time, and support. Remain alert to opportunities to give and receive, as they may appear when they are least expected. Some of my best experiences have come out of situations in which I touched the heart of a person I just met, and that gracious giving led to the gracious receiving of a host of gifts that touched my heart and helped me to move forward with my dreams of service to humankind through my gifts of mediumship.

Be Passionate and Let Your Light Shine
As you take action toward your dreams, it is important to live in the moment and enjoy the journey. Each step in the process can be as exhilarating as the actual fruition of your dreams. When you share your natural excitement and passion with others as you go forth in the world, you will draw others toward you who want to be a part of your mission. This will lead to a cycle of win-win situations. As you help others, others are helping you, which in turn, helps even more people. Let your light shine brightly in this world, and you are guaranteed to generate even more light and passion through the help and support of others who are drawn to your genuine enthusiasm.

Honor the Spirit within Each Person You Meet
Each person on this earth wants compassion, love, respect, and a sense of belonging. Successful interactions occur when you honor the spirit within each person you meet.

To begin, give yourself the compassion, love, respect, and sense of belonging that you desire. You can spend a lifetime looking for it outside of yourself, when all along it was waiting to be discovered within your own heart. Once you have learned how to honor yourself and your own beautiful spirit, it is easier for you to recognize and honor the spirit of others. You know how it feels to be loved and appreciated because you already provide that for yourself. You can share your appreciation and love with others by honoring boundaries, listening and speaking with respect, being kind, and being open to giving and receiving through the heart of your spirit.

We are all united by the same connective thread that is at the heart of all life—our spirits. The more we recognize and honor this connection, the more successful we will be in making this earth a better place.

Move Forward without Fear
Fear is an illusion that comes from the human ego. It will work against you, alienate you, and block your path if you let it. Know that it was put in place as a way of challenging you to grow as a soul. You are meant to step beyond the self-negating thoughts in your head, and give power instead to the positive thoughts and beliefs about yourself. The true essence of your soul is love and light. When you recognize that and bring it forth, you are tapping into the most powerful and positive energies in creation that sync you up with your soul’s life plan. It also opens you up to the extraordinary help and support from your heavenly support team, as well as your fellow citizens here on earth. Visualize the successful outcomes of not only the achievement of your dreams, but also each step that you take on your journey. Keep your focus on the present, and believe that you can achieve anything you set out to do.

Share Your Dreams
As you fan the eternal flame of your dreams, I would love to hear how you have successfully applied the five essential actions. I encourage you to share your dreams and experiences in the comments section below. You never know how you may inspire others to live their own dreams, or how they may support you with yours.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Your Self-Worth Is Not Measured by the Opinions of Others

Self-WorthHave you taken a non-judgmental look inside your heart and spirit to assess the traits that define the essence of who you are? Have you accepted all of those traits in a loving manner by embracing and recognizing the positive ones, and acknowledging the ones that need a little work? 

Self-Awareness and Love
Knowing who you are and loving who you are, are important factors for claiming the power within you that is rightfully yours. When you allow the negative words and actions of others to define you, you are giving other people the power to dim the light within you.

Determining the Reason behind Communications
There is a very big difference between someone providing you with constructive feedback and someone hurling insults and hurtful words at you. The clues to determining the difference are in the delivery and the motivation for the feedback.

When Love Is the Motivator
When people have your best interest at heart, they will speak to you in a respectful manner, and the thoughts they share with you come from the heart. The person who speaks with you in this manner is genuinely interested in your welfare, and would like to help you succeed.

When Fear Is the Motivator
On the opposite end of the spectrum, when people say vicious or mean things to you using sarcastic, biting, or angry tones, they are projecting their own negative feelings about themselves on you. The motivation for such behavior is based in fear. Often, it is because they envy what you possess and are afraid that they will never have it themselves. In this person’s mind, they mistakenly think that putting you down will raise themselves up. Instead of taking responsibility for themselves and their personal happiness, they lash out at you. When facing an onslaught such as this, you need to be strong enough in your own right in order to recognize the motivation behind this behavior, and to dismiss it as someone else’s fears and not a reflection of who you are.

How to Achieve the Best Results
In relationships and communications, it is love, self-love and love toward others, that creates the outcomes we desire. Coming from a place of fear or attempting to instill fear in others may temporarily achieve certain results; however, in the long-term, it eats away at the levels of trust and can ultimately destroy interpersonal relations.

How You Can Choose to React
When you encounter people who are operating from a place of fear instead of love, you can choose to dismiss their comments and hurtful behavior and move on with your life. Whether it was a momentary transgression or a more problematic aspect of someone’s behavior, try to take a more understanding and compassionate approach by knowing that each person is doing their best to grapple with the issues that we contend with on earth. We all make mistakes, and, hopefully, we learn from them. Within your heart, mind, and soul, forgive the person for their transgression, and wish them love, health, and happiness.

You Determine Your Self-Worth
All in all, when you love yourself for who you are and you operate from a standpoint of love, you can more easily recognize when someone’s behavior is motivated by his or her fears, and not genuine feedback that you should take to heart. Your self-worth is a value that is defined by you, and only you. The actions you take and the thoughts you share display to others the value you hold for yourself in your heart, mind, and spirit. Believe in you, and love who you are, because you are a beautiful light in this world who deserves an abundance of happiness and love.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

What to Do When Past Pain Resurfaces

Be at Peace with YourselfAs we go through our lives working through challenging personal situations, healing from them, and accepting them for the lessons they taught us, the old pain that you released may rise to the surface again when we least expect it. Days, months, or even years after you think you have successfully handled the feelings and emotions from the past, you may encounter a situation that is reminiscent of the ones you thought you had a handle on.

Thrown Off Balance
At first, you may be thrown off balance as thoughts and emotions from the past threaten to overwhelm you. However, you are not encountering this situation for the first time. You have already been through this, and you have already learned better ways of handling this situation. For instance, let’s say you are in a situation in which you feel that a person with a forceful personality is trying to manipulate you by insulting you, belittling you, demeaning you, or twisting your words around to suit their needs. Having dealt with this in the past, you are more likely to recognize the manipulative techniques that this person is trying to employ. While it may make you upset to find yourself dealing again with someone who displays this type of negative behavior, you may actually be handling it better than you think.

Reacting Differently through Assertiveness and Love
In this particular situation, it is important to note that the person who is attempting to be manipulative is acting from a place of fear and ego. He or she is not acting from a place of love. It is this person’s intention to force you to bend to his or her will because he or she is afraid of losing power. What this person does not realize is that the perceived power has already been given away the moment he or she decided to allow fear to take over his or her thought processes. When you recognize this, you can choose to react in a manner that does not feed into the fear that this person is projecting. By knowing who you are, you can stand up for yourself in an assertive manner, which is representative of the love that you have for yourself. It is important to note that reacting with aggression, rather than assertion, will only feed into the negative behavior of the other person and drive the situation away from a positive resolution. Stand strong and confident in the love that you have for you, and for the positive and fair resolution of the problem for all involved.

Forgiveness Ushers in Healing
Try not to be upset with yourself if you initially get angry or distraught over the circumstances you are facing. It can be very challenging to deal with situations that are similar to those that brought you pain in the past. Allow yourself to acknowledge your feelings, and then release them. Be at peace with yourself. In your heart and mind, forgive yourself and the person who treated you in this manner, and let go of toxic feelings. Holding a grudge will only serve to hurt you and prevent you from moving forward. Pray for this person’s health and happiness, and let go of the negativity by recognizing that this person has not yet learned to operate from a place of love. Your prayers may help them to move forward, which will mean one more person in this world who embraces the light and love of which we are all a part.

Help Is Available
If you need help working through the emotions and feelings that have arisen from the situation that triggered the resurfacing of past pain, ask God and your angels for help, and speak with friends and family members who are supportive of you and your goals.

Silver Linings
No matter how negative a situation may appear on the surface, there are positive reasons for why they occur in our lives. Once we have lived through the challenging circumstances, we can look back to see what we have learned and decide which route we are going to take if we encounter them again. Situations that rehash pain from the past is not a punishment, but rather an opportunity to put into practice the lessons we have learned and to confirm the growth that has taken place within our spirits.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Set Yourself Free through Forgiveness

Set Yourself Free Through ForgivenessWhether it is painful events in the recent past or from as far back as childhood, emotional, mental, and spiritual trauma can be released from your spirit through forgiveness of the person or people involved, including yourself.

Complex Decisions and Challenging Situations
As spiritual beings on a human journey, we decided to live a lifetime on this earth to learn lessons that will enable us to grow as souls. Many of the lessons we have chosen require complex decisions and challenging situations that can have a significant impact on the evolvement of not only our souls, but also on the souls of others. Because we are in a stage of learning, and are not all-knowing beings, mistakes will be made. It is important to forgive each other for the mistakes we make and to look beyond the pain to the lessons that are built into the situations we encounter on a daily basis.

Reasons and Choices
In order for our souls to evolve to a clearer understanding of the reasons for our existence, it is necessary to face challenges that make us question and think about our self-worth, our relationships and connections with others, and whether or not there really is a higher power that guides us. The reason you experience tragic, sad, or disheartening events is not to drag you down, but to give you a choice. You can choose to let these situations mire you in negativity and self-pity, or you can choose see the blessings and lessons that God and the angels are assisting you with in order to open your heart, mind, and spirit to the truth that exists within your soul.

Why It Is Beneficial to Forgive
Forgiveness is an acknowledgement and a release of actions from the past that caused harm to yourself or others. Extending forgiveness does not mean that you are condoning the behavior that caused you or others harm. It means that you have come to terms with the situation and have made a conscious decision to release its hold on you. By recognizing that these events served a very important purpose in your soul evolvement, you can also learn how to express gratefulness for the lessons you learned. In order to do that though, you must be able to look beyond the pain in order to see how you were given the opportunity to grow as a soul. The rewards you receive for perceiving the patterns and lessons behind traumatizing events includes amazing enlightenment about yourself, others, and the universe as a whole, as well as a realization that these events were necessary steps toward achieving your dreams in this lifetime.

It is important to note that you do not have to be in someone’s presence in order to forgive them. You can extend forgiveness in your heart and mind by sending forgiving thoughts toward the situation and the people involved. Our connection in spirit with one another allows the messages to be received by the spirit of the person you are forgiving. The people that are here on earth may or may not be consciously aware of your message of forgiveness; however, the spirit that resides within them will have received and acknowledged the forgiveness you have extended.

What Happens When You Refuse to Forgive
Holding grudges, anger, and pain inside of yourself hurts you. Those negative emotions and thoughts prevent you from moving forward and draw toward you more unfortunate circumstances. When you are focused on the lower energies produced by fear and anger, you are dragging down your own energy. This will attract more situations to you that are harmful. By choosing to release negative emotions, you are releasing their hold on you. This will lighten your energetic load and free you up to attract more positive experiences in your life. Keep in mind that how you live your life is your choice. Whether you decide to remain mired in misery or rise above the challenges you face, it is the gift of free will that gives you the option to choose the path that you take.

If you need help extending forgiveness, you can ask the archangels for assistance. They will help you to release the negativity and heal the pain that you have been carrying.

Repetition May Be Necessary
Even after you have extended forgiveness, there may be times when a situation will appear in your life that will bring to the surface old pain and remembrances of harmful situations. When this happens, you can extend forgiveness again and visualize the situation and the people involved as healed.

Choosing to be Free
As you make the choice to free yourself from the past, you are also making the choice to open yourself up to love and more positive experiences. Your spirit will be lighter, and you may even feel as though a physical weight has been lifted from your body. Enjoy the benefits and freedom that comes from releasing your past, and shift your focus to the present—which is full of gifts and opportunities for making positive choices regarding your life path.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Follow Your Heart

Heart-Shaped WoodFor the most important aspects of your life, such as relationships and your vocation, the best path for you to take is the one that is dictated by your heart. When you are truly looking within, you know what you desire your life to be. The path to realizing your heartfelt desires may not be the easiest one you will take, but it will be the most rewarding because you will be fulfilling the purpose of your soul.

Throughout our lives, we create and share a variety of relationships. It is through these connections that we cultivate love and learn how to successfully communicate with one another. When you invite someone into your life, you are providing an opening for the development of a relationship. As you get to know someone, you make choices about whether the relationship is healthy and beneficial for you. If you are with someone that you know in your heart is not good for you, misery creeps into your life, especially if you continue to remain in that relationship. It is because you are allowing fear to rule your life, instead of your heart. Deep down, you know which relationships you should keep and which ones you should end. It doesn’t matter what other people’s opinions are regarding this topic. What matters is that you follow what you know to be true for you.

With regard to jobs and careers, it is sometimes necessary for monetary reasons to work for an employer or to perform a job that is not the right one for you. If you are in a job situation in which you are deeply dissatisfied, then it is time to look within your heart to determine the path that would bring you the greatest happiness. What activities do you enjoy? What classes can you take to improve your skills? Can you turn it into a profitable vocation? How can you incorporate the activities and skills you enjoy into the work that you already perform? Keep an open mind and do your best to move beyond your fears. As you are developing your ideas and growing your skills, you may need to continue to work in the job that is not the best fit. The positive actions you are taking toward enjoyable employment will uplift your spirits and help you to endure the less desirable job situation.

Our daily challenges are to overcome the fear that holds us back from living the life we truly desire. Fear is an illusion manifested by the negative voice of the ego. An integral part of our life purposes as human beings is to step beyond the worries and fears in order to see the truth within our souls. When we do that, we are in sync with the universe and our most heartfelt desires come to life on this plane. The path to your happiness and the answers to your questions can be found within your heart, the place through which your soul speaks.

Any time you feel you need assistance, whether it is for strengthening your resolve, support in making the changes that would usher in more happiness in your life, or more faith in yourself or your dreams, you can ask God and the angels for their help. They are there for you and will guide you and support you. Have patience, listen to the guidance provided to you through your heart, and trust that everything will work out for the best for you…and it will.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com