What to Do When Past Pain Resurfaces

Be at Peace with YourselfAs we go through our lives working through challenging personal situations, healing from them, and accepting them for the lessons they taught us, the old pain that you released may rise to the surface again when we least expect it. Days, months, or even years after you think you have successfully handled the feelings and emotions from the past, you may encounter a situation that is reminiscent of the ones you thought you had a handle on.

Thrown Off Balance
At first, you may be thrown off balance as thoughts and emotions from the past threaten to overwhelm you. However, you are not encountering this situation for the first time. You have already been through this, and you have already learned better ways of handling this situation. For instance, let’s say you are in a situation in which you feel that a person with a forceful personality is trying to manipulate you by insulting you, belittling you, demeaning you, or twisting your words around to suit their needs. Having dealt with this in the past, you are more likely to recognize the manipulative techniques that this person is trying to employ. While it may make you upset to find yourself dealing again with someone who displays this type of negative behavior, you may actually be handling it better than you think.

Reacting Differently through Assertiveness and Love
In this particular situation, it is important to note that the person who is attempting to be manipulative is acting from a place of fear and ego. He or she is not acting from a place of love. It is this person’s intention to force you to bend to his or her will because he or she is afraid of losing power. What this person does not realize is that the perceived power has already been given away the moment he or she decided to allow fear to take over his or her thought processes. When you recognize this, you can choose to react in a manner that does not feed into the fear that this person is projecting. By knowing who you are, you can stand up for yourself in an assertive manner, which is representative of the love that you have for yourself. It is important to note that reacting with aggression, rather than assertion, will only feed into the negative behavior of the other person and drive the situation away from a positive resolution. Stand strong and confident in the love that you have for you, and for the positive and fair resolution of the problem for all involved.

Forgiveness Ushers in Healing
Try not to be upset with yourself if you initially get angry or distraught over the circumstances you are facing. It can be very challenging to deal with situations that are similar to those that brought you pain in the past. Allow yourself to acknowledge your feelings, and then release them. Be at peace with yourself. In your heart and mind, forgive yourself and the person who treated you in this manner, and let go of toxic feelings. Holding a grudge will only serve to hurt you and prevent you from moving forward. Pray for this person’s health and happiness, and let go of the negativity by recognizing that this person has not yet learned to operate from a place of love. Your prayers may help them to move forward, which will mean one more person in this world who embraces the light and love of which we are all a part.

Help Is Available
If you need help working through the emotions and feelings that have arisen from the situation that triggered the resurfacing of past pain, ask God and your angels for help, and speak with friends and family members who are supportive of you and your goals.

Silver Linings
No matter how negative a situation may appear on the surface, there are positive reasons for why they occur in our lives. Once we have lived through the challenging circumstances, we can look back to see what we have learned and decide which route we are going to take if we encounter them again. Situations that rehash pain from the past is not a punishment, but rather an opportunity to put into practice the lessons we have learned and to confirm the growth that has taken place within our spirits.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Gratitude – Appreciating What You Have

Joshua and Karen

I am grateful for my friend, Joshua Barber, who is also my Reiki Sensei and an awesome Angel Medium.

Be grateful for what you do have. Don’t get mired in the negative mindset of focusing on what you don’t have. When you do that, you are allowing your ego to get in the way of your life path. If you are missing someone or something in your life, there is a reason for that.

God has a plan for you that may or may not match your vision. In fact, most of the time, it is even better than you can imagine. Let go of the strings that tie you to past disappointments and look for the good in your life at this moment in time. By learning to accept the changes and twists and turns in your life, you will be able follow the path that you were meant to follow.

Each day brings us new opportunities to grow as souls. If we get stuck wishing for situations to be as they were in the past, we miss out on the opportunities of the present…and the present is the only time in which we can make choices and take action. The past is done, the future is yet to be, now is the time to act. Even though situations may not have turned out the way you liked, stand back and look at the positives of what you do have.

Right now, let go of what you don’t have. Concentrate on what is right in front of you:

Be grateful for the relationships that you have with the people who are around you, whether they are an acquaintance or a close loved one. There are significant reasons why they are in your life at this time.

Be grateful for the time that you do get to spend with your loved ones and make the most of it.

Be grateful for who you are and the unique set of skills that you bring to the world.

Be grateful you have gotten this far in life and have done the best you can to get to where you are now.

Let your light shine on everyone and everything around you. Most of all, feel the joy in your heart that comes from knowing that you are loved by God and the Angels for being just who you are at this moment in time.

With Love and Light,
Karen T. Hluchan

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com