Managing Fears of the Unknown

Statue of an Angel

Each day when we awaken, we do not know what the day will bring. We have ideas about how we would like it to go; however, there is no guarantee it will unfold according to our plans. As human beings, we have the tendency to take comfort in knowing what to expect, in routines, and that which is familiar to us. When unexpected events occur, it may stir feelings of dread, upset, or fear, or on the other hand, it may bring about feelings of delightful surprise, astonishment, or happiness. Changing circumstances and events are an inevitable part of our lives. The world is constantly in motion, as are our lives. The decisions we make each day set off a series of reactions and effects which, in turn, create more reactions and effects which ripple out to touch the many situations and people we encounter. All of us are on our own unique journey; however, we are all connected with one another through the hearts of our spirits.

Fearing the Unknown

In essence, we truly do not know what will come next in our lives. There are some events which are destined to occur; however, when and how they will come about depends on the decisions we make and the lessons we learn. There are times when fear of the unknown causes us to attempt to pause our progress due to indecision about which path to take. The choices laid before us may be difficult to choose from because staying where we are may not be the best option and choosing a different path requires a leap of faith that all will work out well. However, the voice of the human ego, which is the seat of all our fears, tends to stoke the fires of uncertainty, leading to worrying thoughts which pause our progress. The negative and persistent presence of the human ego in our thoughts was put there as a challenge. It provides the illusion of separation from God, Heaven, and our divine plans. Instead of allowing the human ego to govern our lives, we can take steps to learn how to recognize it and move past it.

Redirect Your Attention

When faced with a dilemma, instead of allowing your mind to play out all the worst-case scenarios, redirect your attention to the choices at hand. If you have time, try to objectively examine and research your options. Write lists of pros and cons about each path to see which balances out for the better. You can talk with trusted advisors; however, the decision you make will be up to you. Many of the situations we face require a leap of faith; however, that does not mean you need to jump in without knowledge or forethought. The key is to try to make educated decisions in an objective way.

Leaps of Faith

In my own life, I have had quite a journey of faith which required the management of fear of the unknown from the human ego and acquirement of absolute trust in my circumstances. It was a challenging journey at first, as I had to let go of all I thought I knew and wanted in order to let go to make way for what was meant to be in my life. This meant letting go of the desire to control outcomes and focusing on the present, knowing I would be led into beneficial situations or they would come to me. This does not mean that everything would be rosy and wonderful. That would be unrealistic. It means being open to circumstances, no matter what they are, with the perspective that they are designed to help me become a better soul and a more effective person, as well as to allow me to help others through similar circumstances. Challenges can and do come into my life, and I do my best to manage them. I, like you, have my own life lessons to learn and I continually strive to improve the various aspects of me that need work. The human ego with its fears, regrets, and worries is an aspect of being human that remains with us for our entire lives. It can be managed, but it will not go away entirely, which is why learning how to recognize its presence and determining whether concerns are real or generated as a challenge are important to your state of mind, the progress you make in your life lessons, and your spiritual journey.

Everything will be Alright

One very important aspect I have learned from the repeated messages from my guys and gals in heaven is that everything will be alright. This message comes through with great regularity not only for me, but for others. As human beings, we can waste so much time worrying about what will be that we often lose focus on what is. When focusing on the mundane matters of life, we lose focus on the much more important aspects of why we exist and why we are living a life on earth.

Our lifetime on earth is a short journey in the entire existence of our beings. We are here to learn hard and fast lessons we could only learn here, and we are to help one another through the process. There is a balance of negative and positive. Even when it seems there have been more bad experiences than good, it helps to keep in mind there are positive reasons for negative circumstances. Often, it is the powerful lessons behind the situation which drive the occurrence of events. By searching for the positive reasons, you can achieve more understanding about the events of your life. This can lead to a calmer state of mind and a releasing of fears of the unknown, as you will begin to see the beneficial patterns which have been occurring all along.


With Love and Light,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, Spiritual Artist, & Author of How Have You Loved?

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, spiritual artist, and author of How Have You Loved?Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through spirit medium readings and angel readings, speaking engagements, and workshops she instructs, as well as through her writing, Reiki, and fine art spiritual paintings. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.

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Ending Situations That Bring You More Harm than Good

Challenging Relationship SituationEach one of us has experienced painful and challenging situations that we wanted to end, such as an unhealthy relationship or job situation. Fear of the unknown or of loss can sometimes make us feel as though we are trapped with no pathway to freedom and happiness. The illusion of being caged in is a product of our egos, the negative voice of fear that does its best to prevent us from believing in ourselves and our dreams. It will keep you locked in its dark grip if you allow those fearful thoughts and emotions to rule your life. The choice is entirely up to you.

In each situation you encounter, there are positive resolutions available. The challenge is to quiet the negative voice of the ego, in order to look at the situation from a more objective point of view. Nothing in this world is impossible. It is our beliefs, thoughts, and motivations that determine our destinies. While you may not be able to control external factors, you can control how you act and react to situations you encounter on a daily basis.

When you are faced with an important decision, take the time to think about your true desired outcomes. At the heart of it all, what is it that you really want? Is it a job in which you can utilize your skills in an environment that is supportive of you and your career goals? Is it a loving relationship in which you and your partner enjoy mutual respect, love, and passion?

Take an objective look at your current situation. Are you already receiving what you desire but have not been recognizing it because of petty disagreements and nitpicking? Or is your job or relationship truly dissatisfying at a very deep level because your essential needs and desires are not being met? Have you shared your concerns with your employer or partner? Are they willing to work on improving the situation or have your requests for cooperative efforts been ignored?

If small issues are clouding your vision, these can be worked on as they are temporary problems that can be overcome with compassion, forgiveness, and efforts to meet each person’s needs within the situation. If the problem is much larger than that and your requests for assistance have gone unanswered, then this is an important sign that a significant change needs to be made. You need to decide whether it is better for you to remain miserable or to end the situation in a respectful manner and take a chance on the unknown with the hope and belief that there are opportunities for better jobs or relationships for you.

Making a significant change in your life does require a leap of faith. It may seem as though it is an uphill battle, and some sacrifices will need to be made; however, if you make these changes for yourself, you and others in this situation will be rewarded in the end because you are taking responsibility for your own happiness, which will also release others to find theirs. Taking this leap requires that you trust and believe in yourself, your feelings, and your ability to make decisions that are in alignment with your soul plan.

You do not have to walk your path alone. God and the angels are there to help you during this time of transition. Share your true desires and intentions with them. Let them know what it is that you really need or are looking for in your relationships or job situations. They know your heart and hear your thoughts.

God and your angels want what is best for you. They will answer your prayers if you allow them to step into your situation. The answers they provide will come through your intuition, repetitive thoughts or ideas, and external signs. Pay attention to the conversations that you have with others, the songs that you hear, repetitive symbols and signs that have meaning for you, and your gut feelings. These are some of the methods that they will chose to send their answers to you. For instance, a stranger may start up a conversation with you in line at the grocery store and he mentions that he is so much happier now that he ended a relationship or left a dead-end job situation, friends or acquaintances may tell you about a job opportunity that matches your skills, or you may even meet someone who has many of the characteristics you desire in a romantic partner.

As you release the past, and extend forgiveness toward yourself and others for situations that did not work out the way you envisioned, remain alert and aware of the messages you are receiving. In this way, you will be guided toward situations that are much better suited to you and the outcomes you desire.

With great blessings, love, and peace to those of you who are facing important crossroads in your lives. May you see the light that is guiding you toward your dreams and true happiness within your heart.


With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?