Set Yourself Free through Forgiveness

Set Yourself Free Through ForgivenessWhether it is painful events in the recent past or from as far back as childhood, emotional, mental, and spiritual trauma can be released from your spirit through forgiveness of the person or people involved, including yourself.

Complex Decisions and Challenging Situations
As spiritual beings on a human journey, we decided to live a lifetime on this earth to learn lessons that will enable us to grow as souls. Many of the lessons we have chosen require complex decisions and challenging situations that can have a significant impact on the evolvement of not only our souls, but also on the souls of others. Because we are in a stage of learning, and are not all-knowing beings, mistakes will be made. It is important to forgive each other for the mistakes we make and to look beyond the pain to the lessons that are built into the situations we encounter on a daily basis.

Reasons and Choices
In order for our souls to evolve to a clearer understanding of the reasons for our existence, it is necessary to face challenges that make us question and think about our self-worth, our relationships and connections with others, and whether or not there really is a higher power that guides us. The reason you experience tragic, sad, or disheartening events is not to drag you down, but to give you a choice. You can choose to let these situations mire you in negativity and self-pity, or you can choose see the blessings and lessons that God and the angels are assisting you with in order to open your heart, mind, and spirit to the truth that exists within your soul.

Why It Is Beneficial to Forgive
Forgiveness is an acknowledgement and a release of actions from the past that caused harm to yourself or others. Extending forgiveness does not mean that you are condoning the behavior that caused you or others harm. It means that you have come to terms with the situation and have made a conscious decision to release its hold on you. By recognizing that these events served a very important purpose in your soul evolvement, you can also learn how to express gratefulness for the lessons you learned. In order to do that though, you must be able to look beyond the pain in order to see how you were given the opportunity to grow as a soul. The rewards you receive for perceiving the patterns and lessons behind traumatizing events includes amazing enlightenment about yourself, others, and the universe as a whole, as well as a realization that these events were necessary steps toward achieving your dreams in this lifetime.

It is important to note that you do not have to be in someone’s presence in order to forgive them. You can extend forgiveness in your heart and mind by sending forgiving thoughts toward the situation and the people involved. Our connection in spirit with one another allows the messages to be received by the spirit of the person you are forgiving. The people that are here on earth may or may not be consciously aware of your message of forgiveness; however, the spirit that resides within them will have received and acknowledged the forgiveness you have extended.

What Happens When You Refuse to Forgive
Holding grudges, anger, and pain inside of yourself hurts you. Those negative emotions and thoughts prevent you from moving forward and draw toward you more unfortunate circumstances. When you are focused on the lower energies produced by fear and anger, you are dragging down your own energy. This will attract more situations to you that are harmful. By choosing to release negative emotions, you are releasing their hold on you. This will lighten your energetic load and free you up to attract more positive experiences in your life. Keep in mind that how you live your life is your choice. Whether you decide to remain mired in misery or rise above the challenges you face, it is the gift of free will that gives you the option to choose the path that you take.

If you need help extending forgiveness, you can ask the archangels for assistance. They will help you to release the negativity and heal the pain that you have been carrying.

Repetition May Be Necessary
Even after you have extended forgiveness, there may be times when a situation will appear in your life that will bring to the surface old pain and remembrances of harmful situations. When this happens, you can extend forgiveness again and visualize the situation and the people involved as healed.

Choosing to be Free
As you make the choice to free yourself from the past, you are also making the choice to open yourself up to love and more positive experiences. Your spirit will be lighter, and you may even feel as though a physical weight has been lifted from your body. Enjoy the benefits and freedom that comes from releasing your past, and shift your focus to the present—which is full of gifts and opportunities for making positive choices regarding your life path.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Happiness is a Choice

Happiness is a ChoiceUltimately, you are responsible for your own happiness. This is because you are in full control of how you react to situations and people. That is the only thing that you are in control of—your actions or reactions to the environment around you. When a seemingly negative event occurs, you can choose to let the negativity take over your psyche or you can opt to look for the positive in the situation and what you can learn from it. There are always healthy, positive lessons that can be learned from experiences that appear negative on the surface. The key to happiness is in choosing to look past the immediate negativity of circumstances in order to see the blessing that is intended for your soul’s progression.

There are people that I have encountered that never seem to be happy, even when what they have asked for is delivered to them. When their dreams and answers to their prayers are delivered to them, they pick them apart, overlooking the positive and diving deep to find something to complain about. Most of the time, it is some small nitpicky detail that most people wouldn’t think twice about; however, they choose to blow it out of proportion and decide to let it ruin their experience. For whatever reason, these people CHOOSE to live their lives in misery and often blame other people and circumstances for their problems. What they are not seeing is that they are the one ones responsible for their actions and reactions. Sure, other people may cause a negative situation to appear in your life; however, you do not have to let it take you down a path of destruction and self-pity. You can choose to recognize the situation for what it is, determine the path you are going to take to improve the situation, and learn from it. Our reactions will then determine our personal level of happiness. It is entirely up to us whether we mire ourselves in negativity or choose a more positive path.

For example, I recently experienced a situation where my flight was delayed due to inclement weather. I could’ve crabbed and complained about the situation; however, what would that have accomplished? Would it have changed the flight schedule and removed the delay? No. Would it have stopped the severe lightning storms that caused the delay? Again, the answer is no. I chose instead to look at the situation in a more positive light. Maybe I would meet interesting people while waiting for the next flight and/or use that extra time to work on my blog, read my book, or relax. As it turns out, I did meet some interesting people. There is always a reason for the situations we encounter, whether they are positive or negative. If I had decided to embrace the negativity instead of the positive of the situation, I might have missed out on opportunities because I would have been too mired in my own complaining that I wouldn’t have been open to what was being offered to me…interesting conversation and time to relax after a busy week of travel. In addition, I was happier knowing that the FAA was holding off on our flight for safety reasons. When we did get off the ground, the flight was less turbulent than it would’ve been had we flown right into the storms. Again, it was a blessing in disguise.

When I encounter people who brood and wallow in negativity, I choose not to let these people bring me down. Both positivity and negativity are infectious. I may attempt to counter their negative comments with positive ones and a bright smile; however, if they return my kindness with more negativity, I simply walk away and continue to enjoy my day by taking responsibility for my own happiness. I don’t need or want to be in a foul mood; therefore, I choose not to get sucked in to someone else’s choices to be in one by removing myself from the situation. It is not that I am giving up on this person, it is that I am recognizing and appreciating the fact that they alone are responsible for their happiness and, at the moment, they are choosing to take a road of misery that is one road upon which I don’t want to travel. Why would I when there are so many great opportunities to experience joy and happiness every day of our lives?

By choosing to be happy, you are not only opening yourself up to wonderful opportunities and experiences, but you are also showing your Heavenly Support Team your appreciation and gratitude for the gifts they bestow upon you every day. Complaining about a gift is a great way to ensure you won’t get another and it will also alienate you from the givers and the people around you…which you could always complain about, or you can choose to move beyond the negativity and open yourself up to the life you were meant to live with happiness and joy. It’s what God and the Angels want for all of us. The choice is completely up to us regarding whether or not we choose to accept their gifts.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com