Embracing Change as an Opportunity for Growth

butterfly illustrationMany times, I have expressed that life on Earth is about learning lessons for our souls. Challenging times offer many opportunities for growth, while at the same time, may open up new vistas that would not have been available unless we experienced changes in our lives. As human beings, we have a tendency to like routines. They are comfortable and often bring a feeling of safety because we know what to expect and know what is expected of us. When we least expect it, events may occur which throw our comfortable routines into what is perceived as chaos, such as a job loss or the ending of an important relationship. Major events such as these can initially be perceived as very negative; however, they can also be the catalyst for necessary and important changes, as well as lesson learning, in our lives that would not have come about without these events.

Fear of the Unknown

Resistance to change exists due to a fear of the unknown. Like routines, there is comfort to be found in that which we know. Just because you do not know what will come next, does not mean it will be negative. Taking a risk or trying something new can often lead to amazing discoveries and opportunities for happiness and satisfaction. Clinging to the past and familiar routines prevents growth that can come from venturing beyond your norms into new experiences, which is why our lives are sometimes thrown into chaos. There are times when we need to be spiritually pushed into change in order to grow as souls.

Reasons for the Changes

The events in our lives are orchestrated according to the soul contracts we made prior to being born on Earth. Soul contracts are agreements made to learn particular lessons designed to help us achieve the most growth for our souls while on Earth. They are high-level plans which describe the lessons, but do not describe how events will unfold on Earth. This is because we have the gift of free will to make choices about our lives. Therefore, events need to be organized in real-time based on the choices we make on a moment-to-moment basis. We may be presented with an opportunity to learn a specific lesson for our souls; however, due to the choices we make, we may miss the opportunity for growth. Another series of events will be orchestrated in the future to help us to learn the lesson we missed. This will occur until we learn the particular lesson, while we are also being presented with other lessons we need to learn.

Orchestrating Events

Every event on Earth is designed to help multiple people at once. It is an extremely intricate process which requires the lining up of an incredible amount of details to bring about the changes and challenges necessary for growth. All the actions and events are directed by our Heavenly Support Teams based upon our soul contracts. To see the amazing ways in which these synchronicities are lined up is staggering with its sheer volume of details, all aimed at helping us live our lives in ways that bring about the opportunities for growth agreed to before birth.

Evolution through Change

Even though events may initially be perceived as negative, there is always a positive reason for their occurrence, which is the evolution of our souls through growth. As human beings, it is easy to get caught up in the negativity or fears surrounding change. It is the human ego, which is where our fears originate, that tries to derail us with negative thoughts of doom and gloom. The human ego is gifted to us when we are born as a generator of obstacles we are meant to learn how to manage. The negativity issued by the ego is necessary on Earth to present us with challenges for our agreed-to life lessons. In Heaven, this type of negativity does not exist. We have it on Earth because this is where we come for accelerated growth of our souls.

When major disruptions occur in our lives, we can allow ourselves to become stuck in the negative or we can work through the issues knowing there is a positive reason for their occurrence. To break out of the rut of negativity, do your best to focus on the solutions instead of the problem. Define actions you can take and start working on them. Even though events may take you on an unanticipated path, these events can also lead to a brighter future. As an example of this, when I was laid off after fifteen years with a corporate company, I could have allowed myself to wallow in the disparity of the loss. Instead, I saw it as an opportunity to invest in myself and my future by writing my first book and going full-time with my business. It took a tremendous leap of faith to do this. I cannot say that enough. I was entering a period in my life that would require great faith, very hard work, and strong determination to succeed. Once I made up my mind to focus on the solution, I took immediate action. Within 24 hours of being laid off, I was writing my book, contacting publishers to figure out the best steps to take, and moving forward with the expansion of my business. To this day, I am grateful for those life-changing circumstances because they pushed me into a situation that brought about opportunities to follow my passion and share my gifts with the world on a much larger scale.

You, too, can make important changes to your life. When faced with challenging circumstances, look to solutions. Open your mind to the possibilities and let go of that which you cannot change. It is healthy to mourn the loss of that which is gone and to acknowledge your pain; however, getting lost in the sadness by keeping your focus there for an extended period of time will not bring about the changes calling to your soul.

Moving Forward

Our lives are constantly evolving. There is comfort to be found in the familiar; however, without change there is no growth. Embrace the changes, look to the solutions, and take steps to bring about the solutions. Doing so may require great leaps of faith and hard work; however, the rewards awaiting you can bring about the very circumstances your soul needs. Whether it is a higher understanding of life’s events, the fulfillment of your personal calling, inner peace, making a positive difference in the lives of others, or much more, change can bring about opportunities that answer the call in your soul to evolve in ways which usher in personal satisfaction, meaningful growth, and profound discoveries about you and the world around you.

Namaste and great blessings to you!

With Love and Light,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, Spiritual Artist, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, spiritual artist, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through spirit medium readings and angel readings, speaking engagements, and workshops she instructs, as well as through her writing, Reiki, and fine art spiritual paintings. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.
 
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Endings are New Beginnings in Disguise

Rainbow Around the SunThroughout our lives, we meet many people. Some of those people will become good friends, best friends, partners, or spouses. When we welcome people into our lives, it is with the hope that the relationships will be long-lasting and bring much happiness to our lives and to the lives of the people with whom we are involved. Sometimes, though, people grow apart and discover that they are no longer compatible, or we truly see someone for who they are and not who we wish them to be. At other times, relationships gradually fizzle away because one or both parties are not actively putting in the effort to maintain the connection. Whatever the reason or the cause, it is important to know that not all relationships are meant to last a lifetime, even if that is what we hoped for and prayed for in our lifetimes.

Prayers Answered
The endings can be sad; however, they can also open up our lives to new opportunities for happiness. God and the archangels hear our prayers, and they know what would ultimately bring us greater happiness in the long run. The ending of a relationship may be their way of making room in your life for someone or something better. The ending may be temporary, or it may be permanent. Either way, when the ending occurs, ask God and the archangels to help you deal with the change. If you need more faith to believe in the positive outcome of the situation, ask for it. If you need help healing your heart, ask for it. Be open to the assistance you receive. It may come in the form of a calmness in your heart caused by the gentle acceptance of the situation, or it may come in the form of a friend or family member who helps you through the challenging times

Trust the Path You Are On
To help yourself to heal and make the most of your experiences with a relationship that has ended or is in the process of ending, take a look at the relationship as a whole to see what you have learned from the experience. Express gratitude for the lessons learned and the love shared, express forgiveness to yourself and others, allow yourself time to heal, and then move forward with your life with the mindset of an adventurer. New experiences and people await discovery in your life’s journey, and by opening your heart and your mind, you give yourself the opportunity to embrace the changes that are a part of your soul’s evolution. Let go and let God steer the ship for a while. He is an excellent captain to have at the helm, especially when stormy seas are tossing you around. God will bring you safely into harbor, where you can explore the adventures that await you through the new people you meet and the situations you encounter.

Look Forward to New Beginnings
Remember, endings are new beginnings in disguise. In order to make room in your life for your prayers to be answered, sometimes it is necessary for one relationship or situation to end before another, more positive, experience can begin.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

What to Do When Past Pain Resurfaces

Be at Peace with YourselfAs we go through our lives working through challenging personal situations, healing from them, and accepting them for the lessons they taught us, the old pain that you released may rise to the surface again when we least expect it. Days, months, or even years after you think you have successfully handled the feelings and emotions from the past, you may encounter a situation that is reminiscent of the ones you thought you had a handle on.

Thrown Off Balance
At first, you may be thrown off balance as thoughts and emotions from the past threaten to overwhelm you. However, you are not encountering this situation for the first time. You have already been through this, and you have already learned better ways of handling this situation. For instance, let’s say you are in a situation in which you feel that a person with a forceful personality is trying to manipulate you by insulting you, belittling you, demeaning you, or twisting your words around to suit their needs. Having dealt with this in the past, you are more likely to recognize the manipulative techniques that this person is trying to employ. While it may make you upset to find yourself dealing again with someone who displays this type of negative behavior, you may actually be handling it better than you think.

Reacting Differently through Assertiveness and Love
In this particular situation, it is important to note that the person who is attempting to be manipulative is acting from a place of fear and ego. He or she is not acting from a place of love. It is this person’s intention to force you to bend to his or her will because he or she is afraid of losing power. What this person does not realize is that the perceived power has already been given away the moment he or she decided to allow fear to take over his or her thought processes. When you recognize this, you can choose to react in a manner that does not feed into the fear that this person is projecting. By knowing who you are, you can stand up for yourself in an assertive manner, which is representative of the love that you have for yourself. It is important to note that reacting with aggression, rather than assertion, will only feed into the negative behavior of the other person and drive the situation away from a positive resolution. Stand strong and confident in the love that you have for you, and for the positive and fair resolution of the problem for all involved.

Forgiveness Ushers in Healing
Try not to be upset with yourself if you initially get angry or distraught over the circumstances you are facing. It can be very challenging to deal with situations that are similar to those that brought you pain in the past. Allow yourself to acknowledge your feelings, and then release them. Be at peace with yourself. In your heart and mind, forgive yourself and the person who treated you in this manner, and let go of toxic feelings. Holding a grudge will only serve to hurt you and prevent you from moving forward. Pray for this person’s health and happiness, and let go of the negativity by recognizing that this person has not yet learned to operate from a place of love. Your prayers may help them to move forward, which will mean one more person in this world who embraces the light and love of which we are all a part.

Help Is Available
If you need help working through the emotions and feelings that have arisen from the situation that triggered the resurfacing of past pain, ask God and your angels for help, and speak with friends and family members who are supportive of you and your goals.

Silver Linings
No matter how negative a situation may appear on the surface, there are positive reasons for why they occur in our lives. Once we have lived through the challenging circumstances, we can look back to see what we have learned and decide which route we are going to take if we encounter them again. Situations that rehash pain from the past is not a punishment, but rather an opportunity to put into practice the lessons we have learned and to confirm the growth that has taken place within our spirits.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

The Purpose of the Human Ego and How to Manage Its Effects

Managing the EgoWhen our spirits are in heaven, negativity does not exist. It does exist on earth because it was built into the program for beings to experience an accelerated path for the growth of their souls toward enlightenment. The human ego, the driving force behind earthly negativity, is a mechanism that is built into us when we receive our human bodies. It is placed within us as a personal obstacle that challenges us on a daily basis with its pessimistic views that have the potential to drag us into its shadowy depths. It is important to note that the negativity, worries, fears, regrets, and self-doubt it projects upon our psyches is all an illusion. None of it is real. It certainly feels real, and it certainly can have a very real effect on our lives if we allow it to take over our thought processes. It is the most significant and persistent challenge we face as spiritual beings on a human journey.

By knowing that the negative voice of the ego is an illusion designed to make us examine our belief systems and thought processes, we can learn how to manage its negating and self-destructive effects. This can be accomplished through thought management, love, and examining our souls for the true lessons that are behind the challenges we experience in our lives each day.

Thought Management
We have the power to control our thought processes. It may not appear that way when negative thoughts, concerns, worries, and regrets seem to race through our minds, blocking out all of the positive beliefs and thoughts we hold in our minds. You can learn to manage negative ego-based thoughts by first recognizing their presence and then acknowledging them for what they are—an illusion. Ego-based thoughts are the ones that tell us that we are not good enough, that we are failures or that we will never succeed, that our ideas are worthless, or that we are unlovable. None of these statements are true, and should not be believed because they are borne out of the ego which projects fear as a challenge. Fears are obstacles that are meant to be overcome. By dismissing these thoughts, we can step beyond the illusion of fear that clouds our vision, in order to see the true spirit that resides within us. We were designed by our Creator as perfect beings of light that are capable of accomplishing any task that is placed before us. We have dreams and goals that we are meant to achieve, and can do so because we have been given every tool that we need to succeed. Our first task, though, is to manage the effects of the ego in a way that opens our minds, hearts, and spirits to the potential that lies within our own souls.

The Power of Love in Its Purest Form
The opposite of fear is love. It is through the power of divine love that our spirits were formed. We were born out of love, and are the true essence of love in its purest form. Our memories of this are veiled when our spirits take on the human form. This is done in order to allow us to learn the lessons associated with the human ego. As we evolve and expand our conscious thoughts, we can break through the veil of the ego that conceals this knowledge from our spirits.

To do this, we need to manage the negative effects of the ego, and learn to truly love ourselves for who we are. Any perceived flaws in our human forms have been placed there as a challenge. We are here to love ourselves, flaws and all. As with our spirits, our human forms were created to be unique. These differences show the beauty and value of our individuality, and should be embraced with acceptance, love, and respect for the unique path that each soul has chosen for his or her divine growth and enlightenment.

When you love and respect yourself for who you are, you are more inclined to make decisions that are more in line with you and your dreams. Circumstances that may have brought you down in the past will no longer have the same hold on you, because the love and respect that you have for yourself will help you to remove yourself from situations that have the potential to bring you harm. Loving yourself gives you the strength and compassion you need to stand up for yourself, and to make the decisions that will bring you the most joy and happiness.

Examining the Lessons
Each experience we have on earth is designed for the growth of our soul. We make choices every day about how we will proceed, and how the events that occur will affect us. We are in control of the choices we that make; we are the masters of our own destiny. By examining the circumstances we have encountered and are encountering, and the choices we have made and are in the process of making, we can begin to see the patterns and lessons that are behind our experiences. For example, we may have had a childhood in which one of our parents was overly stern or harsh in their treatment of us. The negative voice of the ego may say that we deserved to be treated that way because we are unlovable. Instead of giving the ego free reign to spread its fear, we can look at the situation as a lesson in learning how not to treat others. It is also an opportunity to learn how to extend forgiveness toward those who have not yet learned to love themselves or manage the effects of the ego that led them to act out of fear and bring harm to other souls.

All of our experiences have positive reasons for occurring. If we take the time to examine them from a viewpoint of love and determining the purpose of life lessons, we can see the step-by-step progression our souls are making toward enlightenment.

Blessings to You on Your Journey
Be patient with yourself as you learn how to manage the ego. It takes time to break the habit of giving in to the negative chatter that the ego spouts. It is a persistent voice that tried to demand and command your attention in a manner that is similar to a toddler throwing a tantrum. Like the toddler, the ego yells and screams until it is appeased, or until it realizes that its unacceptable behavior is being ignored. And also like the toddler, if you give in to the ego’s unrealistic demands, then you will be rewarded with more tantrums. If you learn how to ignore the ego’s negative rants, it will realize the futility of its efforts, and will begin to recognize that something greater than it is in charge—the true and loving spirit that resides within you.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

How to Prepare for a Spirit Reading with a Medium

AngelWhen receiving messages from Spirit, it is important to keep an open mind. This is for both me and the recipient of the messages–you. I advise recipients of readings to not concentrate too hard on having one particular person come through because you never know who in Spirit has a message that they would like to pass on to you. Because Spirit sees more than we do, they know which messages you need to receive in your life at the time of the reading. If a particular person does not come through, it does not mean that they do not love you, it may mean that the time is not yet right for them to come through.

In addition, I ask people to not feed me too much personal information about themselves prior to a reading as it takes away the opportunity for Spirit to identify who they are to you. This is important because when I give a reading, I pass along the information that I receive from Spirit in order to validate their identity. The information is unique to you and your life. Spirit passes along information that I would not have in order for you to know that it is them and not me that is providing the messages to you.

Being the recipient of Spirit Medium reading is an extraordinary opportunity for you to receive information about your life, your loved ones, and Heaven. The messages that you receive are of personal importance to you and also for your loved ones here on earth.

It is truly a blessing and an honor to receive messages from Spirit, both for me and the recipients of the readings. I hope that if you ever have the opportunity to receive a reading from a Spirit Medium, that you, too, feel the reverence and importance of the blessing that you are receiving in your life.

With Love and Light,
Karen T. Hluchan

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Gratitude – Appreciating What You Have

Joshua and Karen

I am grateful for my friend, Joshua Barber, who is also my Reiki Sensei and an awesome Angel Medium.

Be grateful for what you do have. Don’t get mired in the negative mindset of focusing on what you don’t have. When you do that, you are allowing your ego to get in the way of your life path. If you are missing someone or something in your life, there is a reason for that.

God has a plan for you that may or may not match your vision. In fact, most of the time, it is even better than you can imagine. Let go of the strings that tie you to past disappointments and look for the good in your life at this moment in time. By learning to accept the changes and twists and turns in your life, you will be able follow the path that you were meant to follow.

Each day brings us new opportunities to grow as souls. If we get stuck wishing for situations to be as they were in the past, we miss out on the opportunities of the present…and the present is the only time in which we can make choices and take action. The past is done, the future is yet to be, now is the time to act. Even though situations may not have turned out the way you liked, stand back and look at the positives of what you do have.

Right now, let go of what you don’t have. Concentrate on what is right in front of you:

Be grateful for the relationships that you have with the people who are around you, whether they are an acquaintance or a close loved one. There are significant reasons why they are in your life at this time.

Be grateful for the time that you do get to spend with your loved ones and make the most of it.

Be grateful for who you are and the unique set of skills that you bring to the world.

Be grateful you have gotten this far in life and have done the best you can to get to where you are now.

Let your light shine on everyone and everything around you. Most of all, feel the joy in your heart that comes from knowing that you are loved by God and the Angels for being just who you are at this moment in time.

With Love and Light,
Karen T. Hluchan

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Live in the Present

Peace Valley ParkLiving in the present is a way of life. By focusing on what it right in front of us now, we give open ourselves up to the opportunities that are present right in this moment of time. People often wonder why, when we get older, time seems to disappear before our very eyes. We turn around and weeks, months, even years, have passed.

I used to think that it was the increase of responsibilities as we got older that made time fly. As children, we have no concerns except for living in the moment. That is when I realized that it is our worries, regrets and fears that rob us of our time and experiences.

By worrying about what could be, we are not living in the present or paying attention to our immediate surroundings because we are too busy creating scenarios in our heads. With regrets, it is a replaying of life videos in our heads which block our vision. Worries and regrets are the parents of fear and fear is what prevents us from taking positive action in our lives.

To clear your head and live in the present, start by making yourself more aware of your patterns of thinking. When you catch yourself getting wrapped up in worries, regrets or fears, stop the mind chatter and remind yourself to “be here now” because right now is what living is all about.

This doesn’t mean that you never look forward or back. From time to time, we need to look forward to make plans and back to learn lessons from our past. Make plans, look back to see what you could’ve done better and then let it go. You know what to do now and plans are set. There is no need to obsess about either the past or the future.

Open your eyes. Look around. Be grateful for what have in your life at this very moment – whether it is for the warmth of the sun, a friend sitting beside you, the blessing of good health, or the roof over your head. Savor all blessings large and small and recognize the joy of the moment within yourself. You can even share it out loud.

There are wonderful people, signs, and opportunities right in front of you. By keeping your eyes open and your mind on the present, you give yourself the opportunity to make the most of your time. You may even find, like I did, that time seems to slow down. When you savor each moment for what it is, you are fully living your life.

Most importantly, by living in the present, you give your Angels and Spirit Guides an opportunity to step in and help guide you in decisions that lead to your greatest happiness. They place opportunities and signs in front of you all of the time. All you need to do is open your eyes to the wonders of the present to be the beneficiary of these great gifts.

With Love and Light,
Karen T. Hluchan

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com