Why Comparing Yourself to Others Is a Waste of Time

ComparisonHave you ever wondered, “How come everyone else seems to get what they want? What about me? When is it going to be my turn?”

At times, it may seem as though others are getting what they want, and that you are being left out in the cold. However, if you look closely, you will see that is not the case.

Life Paths are Unique
First and foremost, comparing your life path to another’s is a waste of your precious time. Each person on this earth has his or her own path to follow. You have not lived another’s life, and therefore, cannot possibly know all of the circumstances they have faced and will face as a result of his or her actions. Additionally, there may have been a soul contract in place that dictates that one person behaves in a certain way in order to help others with life lessons. In other cases, you do not know the specific steps that a person took to get where they are today. It may seem as though a particular person is having everything handed to them; however, they may have spent years working diligently to establish themselves, and you are seeing the end result of his or her work.

Behavior with Consequences
In the case of people who bully, push, or lie their way into getting what they want, they are not to be envied. He or she may temporarily receive the reward they desired, but at what cost? This type of behavior is destroying the relationships that this person has with others. One of our main purposes in life is to develop loving, healthy relationships with one another. In my book, How Have You Loved?, I describe how the title of the book is the most important question we are asked when we review our lives in heaven. This lifetime, and every lifetime that we experience, is about the love that we share with ourselves and others. People who consciously hurt others to get what they want are truly hurting themselves in the end.

It May Be a Soul Contract
As I mentioned above, there may also be a soul contract in place. The contract may have to do with helping someone to cope with feelings of loss, to learn how to overcome setbacks, or to help someone to understand that there is more to life than material possessions. We make these contracts in heaven before we are born on this earth. Any knowledge that we had about them was purposefully obscured from us at birth. When major events occur in our lives, it is possible to see how certain actions and circumstances may have been the direct result of a soul contract. By keeping this in the back of your mind, it is easier to forgive yourself and others for actions taken.

Open to Abundance and Reward for Efforts
For others who just seem to have things handed to them, it could have a lot to do with their state of mind being open to receiving abundance. It may also have to do with a lot of hard work he or she performed to get where they are today. Again, you do not know what someone’s life path is or what they have experienced in order to be the recipient of great gifts of love, time, money, or opportunities.

Focus on You
Instead of concerning yourself with the actions of others, your time and energies would be better spent concentrating on your own life path and actions. Be grateful for what you do have in your life and enjoy the journey. You cannot control what others do or receive, but you can control the actions you take, as well as your thought processes. When you align yourself with the loving energies of your spirit, you are more likely to take beneficial actions that will lead you toward your heart’s desires. Patience may be needed; however, God and your angels know what it is that you truly desire. They have heard your prayers, and are diligently working on answering them.

Relax and Remain Open to Unexpected Solutions
Take a deep breath and relax. Take delight in the people, places, and things that surround you now, and know that all good things come to you through timing that is determined by heaven. Because of their elevated viewpoint, your heavenly support team knows when the timing is just right for you to receive the answers to your prayers. They also know what would be best for you in the long run. If it appears as though your prayers are not being answered, they are; although, it may be in a different way than you think. What you have prayed for will ultimately be fulfilled; however, it is up to your Creator to determine how it will happen and when.

Benefiting Many
More often than not, there are other people who will also benefit from the positive circumstances that are coming your way. It is important to understand that it takes time to orchestrate the necessary circumstances for everyone involved. Be patient and have faith that your time to receive will come at the perfect moment for the development of your soul—with the added benefit of helping others at the same time. Enjoy the blessings!

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Hypnotherapy: Does It Really work?

Hypnotherapy: Does It Really Work?Recently, I participated in a hypnotherapy session to help me to end the harmful habit of smoking cigarettes. I had known for a long time that I wanted to quit, and had tried many times, including once with success that lasted a year and a half. There are many smoking cessation products on the market; however, many of them were ineffective for me or caused negative side effects, such as nightmares or severe mood swings. Hypnotherapy, which does not utilize chemicals, seemed like a natural alternative to getting the help I needed to stop smoking.

Performing Research
I will admit that I was not sure that I could be hypnotized. I was also concerned about what hypnotherapy would require of me. Would I have to give up complete control of my mind to someone else? Because I did not know what to expect, I did my homework and researched how hypnotherapy works. I also went to a hypnotherapist that I had personally met in a professional setting, and with whom I felt comfortable.

Conscious and Awake
Contrary to popular belief, hypnotherapy does not require you to give up complete control of your mind to someone else. In fact, you are fully conscious at all times. The therapist or practitioner speaks to you in a soothing way that helps your mind and body to relax. You enter into a lucid trance state in which you are awake, yet completely relaxed. Once you are fully immersed in the lucid trance state, the practitioner then addresses your subconscious, which I refer to as the ego. To me, the session was a retraining of the way that I thought about smoking, almost as though the thoughts in my mind were being reprogrammed for a healthier lifestyle. There was nothing threatening or dangerous about this process because I could stop the session at any time. My free will was not impeded during my hypnotherapy session.

An Honest Conversation about Desired Outcomes
The topics that are addressed to your subconscious mind should be discussed at length with your practitioner and agreed upon by you prior to the session. For instance, I asked to have the thought that I am a non-smoker reinforced, and that I would not experience withdrawal symptoms or gain weight because that is what would happen to an ex-smoker, not a non-smoker. It is important to be aware of the actions or events that trigger harmful behavioral habits. To get the most out of your sessions and to achieve the best results, be very clear, upfront, and honest with your practitioner and yourself about your triggers and what you can do to work through them when they arise during the healing process.

Follow-Up at Home
Once your session or sessions are over, there is follow-up work that you must do in order to reinforce the subliminal messages that were shared with your subconscious. Your willpower and ego will come into play regarding the paths you are going to take. It is important to note that each person reacts differently to hypnotherapy. For me, I found that I have experienced some of the symptoms of physical withdrawal including brief periods of irritability, fatigue, sadness, and cravings. When the occasional craving crosses my mind, I repeat the affirmation that I love being a non-smoker and living a healthy lifestyle. By redirecting my thoughts and reaffirming my purpose, it helps me to overcome and move past the momentary craving. As a last resort, I chew a piece of nicotine replacement gum or utilize an electronic cigarette that delivers vaporized nicotine without harmful smoke or additives. It is important to note that I also had to retrain my mind with all of the activities that I perform each day. Having a plan in place to deal with my triggers, such as chewing a piece of sugar-free gum after a meal, helped me to bypass the past behavior of smoking after eating.

Treat Yourself with Kindness
As I am adjusting to my new lifestyle, I being kind to myself by giving myself time to adapt to the changes and to take it easy. I am in the process of breaking a habit and an addiction that I had been performing for more than 20 years. Patience, kindness, and understanding is needed as your mind, body, and spirit heals and adjusts to significant changes in behavior.

The Incredible Power of Thought
In my book, How Have You Loved?, I talk about how our thoughts truly determine our destinies. How you think and what you think greatly impacts the outcomes of situations in your life. Hypnotherapy taps directly into the basis of our thoughts in order to redirect them toward more positive outcomes.

Some people may ask, why I did not just make the decision to quit smoking and do so cold turkey? I can say with great confidence that I knew I needed additional help with the adjustment to my thought processes about smoking, as well as the physical addiction. I had tried to quit on my own several times and failed; however, I was not ready to give up. I am not afraid of admitting that I needed extra help, or asking for it. Had I not been truthful with myself, I would still be where I was and I might have had a more difficult time ridding myself of that harmful habit. There is no shame in admitting you need assistance with a challenging task, such as overcoming an addiction. By asking for help, it shows your willingness to get the help you need in order to get your life on a more positive and healthy path.

A Natural Alternative for Success
Hypnotherapy can help you to overcome or to better manage behaviors that are unhealthy or causing disruption in your life, such as smoking, phobias, or eating disorders. As you would when finding a new doctor, be sure to research the practitioner or therapist that you are interested in seeing. Ask trusted friends, colleagues, and family members for recommendations and search online for reviews. Learn about the particular practice you are interested in visiting, as well as the success rates. Ask questions before booking your appointment in order to know what to expect from your session or sessions.

It is important to note that most, but not all people, will benefit from hypnotherapy. It all depends on you and your willingness to be open to thought suggestions, and to follow through on your own with the reinforcing actions and affirmations provided by your practitioner after your session. With determination, self-love, and a willingness to be a healthier you, success is entirely possible.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,

Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

As a note, I have a book signing event coming up this Saturday, March 8th from 2pm-4pm at the Horsham Library in Pennsylvania. To learn more about this and other upcoming events, visit my website at www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com and click on the news or events tabs.

Exploring the Gifts of Mediumship and Psychic Abilities

Meditation for the SoulWhen communicating with spirits, it is important to understand that the process is complicated and abstract. It is not as simple as sitting down and having a chat with a friend. In order to communicate across dimensions, spirits use a combination of images, sounds, feelings, smells, tastes, and stored knowledge. This is done through the manipulation and use of energy. Like us, spirits need to learn how to communicate across dimensions. It is a skill that, once learned, can be built upon as a soul continues to evolve through the ages.

Mediumship
People on earth who display strong abilities to communicate with spirits are referred to as mediums. In most cases, mediums are souls that have been in existence for a long time, and have been working on mastering the art of spirit communication across various dimensions. Similar to people who excel or specialize in certain skill sets in their jobs, mediums may also specialize in communications with certain beings, such as animals, angels, spirit guides, and the spirits of human beings.

Psychic Abilities
There are additional skills sets that mediums may possess, but are not confined just to them. These skills include psychic abilities, past life regression techniques, crystal energy work, telekinesis, and more. People who intuitively know information are referred to as psychics. All mediums have psychic abilities, but not all psychics have mediumship skills that they have mastered. This may be because they have not yet reached that level in their soul’s evolution, or because they have willingly chosen to specialize in the art of intuitive knowledge in this lifetime.

Your Divine Gifts
It is interesting to note that intuition and the ability to communicate via our spirits are gifts that have been granted to all human beings. We have the opportunity and ability to work on and strengthen our skills in this lifetime. While you may not master intuitive and mediumship precepts in this lifetime, you can learn how to better utilize the gifts that God has given you through education and practice.

The Benefits of Developing Your Intuition
Through the refinement of intuitive skills, you are giving yourself the opportunity to receive guidance from your support team in heaven. They send you messages through your intuition to help you with your life path. When you listen to and heed your intuition, your path may be easier as a result because you are accepting help that is being freely given from spiritual beings whose vision greatly exceeds our limited perceptions on earth.

Communicating Through Spirit
The ability to communicate through our spirits has been granted to us because that is how we communicate with God, ourselves, and one another. There are many ways to work on this gift including meditation to get in touch with the spirit within you, learning about mediumship to communicate with spirits outside of yourself, and communing with God within your own heart to develop your relationship with the divine.

Working from the Heart
If you choose to work on developing your skills, have patience with yourself and keep your mind open to the possibilities. Trying to force or manipulate results with wishful thinking or with the intent to harm others will backfire. To truly develop your gifts, it requires a commitment from you to work from the heart, as gifts from the divine are to be approached with honesty, integrity, faith, trust, and love, as well as a strong desire for truth and to be of service to others.

May you be blessed throughout your journey to discover the gifts within you. Namaste!

With Light and Love,

Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Winter Is a Blessing

Winter is a BlessingThere are blessings in every season. In Pennsylvania, there is snow on the ground and the air is cold and crisp. Some may look outside and see drab colors, and they may even complain about the cold temperatures and plans that have been delayed due to snowstorms. Those that complain are focusing on the negatives, instead of embracing the positives about the winter season.

Majestic Beauty
For those that enjoy the sparkle of the sunlight glittering off of the snow, the smell of the clean air, and the light crackling sound that the snow makes as it falls on the ground, it is a time of skiing and sledding, building snow forts and having snowball fights, and taking walks in a world that seems hushed and still.

Opportunities Abound
There is a beauty to the season that can be enjoyed as the hustle and bustle of life is brought to a seeming standstill. Since many activities are stilled outside when the snow is falling, it is a time for snuggling in at home or in your friend’s homes, spending time on crafts or hobbies, playing with your children, reading or studying, meditating, trying out new recipes, catching up on indoor tasks, playing games, and relaxing. I see it as a fantastic opportunity for personal growth and closeness with the people you love.

The Spiritual Need for Winter
There are times in our lives when certain activities cannot be completed. It is during this time that we can turn inward and concentrate on the activities or actions that we can take. The season of winter teaches us about patience and waiting, enjoying what is in front of us, making the best use of our time with the resources we have, and the importance of taking a rest when it is needed. Periods of rest and regrouping are needed for our bodies and souls. Winter offers time to make plans and to relax the constant striving that often takes over our lives.

Creating Your Own Winter Season
Even if you are in a warmer climate, take the time to create your own winter season by allowing yourself to take a step back from your tasks and responsibilities in order to enjoy some personal time for you. Work on creative projects, meditate, have fun and play, and visit with family and friends. In this way, you can recharge your spirit, and give your mind and body the rest it needs. Your energy and sense of purpose will be heightened and ready for action when it is time to pick up your tasks again.

Stepping Back Allows Your Higher Consciousness to Provide Solutions
Some of my best ideas and creative solutions come to me when I take the time to play and relax. This is because I am releasing my cares and concerns, which opens the door for my heavenly support team to send me answers that I might not have seen or heard. Continually pushing and striving toward goals with a single-minded purpose does not allow room for your higher consciousness to step in. It is as though you have blinders on that do not allow you to look right or left. If you are struggling to find solutions or are hitting frustrating obstacles in your path, temporarily release your concerns and participate in a fun activity that will take your mind off of your problems.

Solutions and answers to your prayers may come to you if you allow your heavenly support team to step in and assist you. You do not need to solve all of your challenges on your own. If you are having a hard time relaxing, ask your angels to help you to release your worries and concerns. Hand them up to them as you take time out to play. At the very least, you will have given your mind, body, and spirit a much-needed rest, and you will be able to pick up the mantle of responsibility with renewed energy and motivation.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Follow Your Heart

Heart-Shaped WoodFor the most important aspects of your life, such as relationships and your vocation, the best path for you to take is the one that is dictated by your heart. When you are truly looking within, you know what you desire your life to be. The path to realizing your heartfelt desires may not be the easiest one you will take, but it will be the most rewarding because you will be fulfilling the purpose of your soul.

Throughout our lives, we create and share a variety of relationships. It is through these connections that we cultivate love and learn how to successfully communicate with one another. When you invite someone into your life, you are providing an opening for the development of a relationship. As you get to know someone, you make choices about whether the relationship is healthy and beneficial for you. If you are with someone that you know in your heart is not good for you, misery creeps into your life, especially if you continue to remain in that relationship. It is because you are allowing fear to rule your life, instead of your heart. Deep down, you know which relationships you should keep and which ones you should end. It doesn’t matter what other people’s opinions are regarding this topic. What matters is that you follow what you know to be true for you.

With regard to jobs and careers, it is sometimes necessary for monetary reasons to work for an employer or to perform a job that is not the right one for you. If you are in a job situation in which you are deeply dissatisfied, then it is time to look within your heart to determine the path that would bring you the greatest happiness. What activities do you enjoy? What classes can you take to improve your skills? Can you turn it into a profitable vocation? How can you incorporate the activities and skills you enjoy into the work that you already perform? Keep an open mind and do your best to move beyond your fears. As you are developing your ideas and growing your skills, you may need to continue to work in the job that is not the best fit. The positive actions you are taking toward enjoyable employment will uplift your spirits and help you to endure the less desirable job situation.

Our daily challenges are to overcome the fear that holds us back from living the life we truly desire. Fear is an illusion manifested by the negative voice of the ego. An integral part of our life purposes as human beings is to step beyond the worries and fears in order to see the truth within our souls. When we do that, we are in sync with the universe and our most heartfelt desires come to life on this plane. The path to your happiness and the answers to your questions can be found within your heart, the place through which your soul speaks.

Any time you feel you need assistance, whether it is for strengthening your resolve, support in making the changes that would usher in more happiness in your life, or more faith in yourself or your dreams, you can ask God and the angels for their help. They are there for you and will guide you and support you. Have patience, listen to the guidance provided to you through your heart, and trust that everything will work out for the best for you…and it will.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com