Messages from the Other Side: The Soul Importance of Expressing and Showing Love

I love you!Heaven is a place filled with love and knowledge. When our loved ones cross over into heaven, they experience an awakening as they review their lives and realize the impact of their actions while on earth. I cannot even begin to count the number of times people have come through in spirit asking for forgiveness for the lack of love that they showed or expressed when they were here. This type of message is not only to ease the hearts of those receiving it, but also to teach us about the vital importance of expressing and showing our love to one another while we are living on earth.

Generators of Positive Energy

Everything we are and everything we do is based in love. We are created from the supreme power of love by our Creator, and we are meant to continue to generate the purity of that love through the actions we take on a daily basis. As souls on a human journey, we face many challenges here on earth. It is the relationships and love we cultivate that helps us through the dark times and brings us great joy when we celebrate the light. We are truly here to help one another. All of the mundane problems of everyday life are but catalysts to encourage us to work through our problems together; to search out and find the love that is already there in the hearts of all of our spirits.

You Can Take It with You

When we cross over into heaven, we take with us our spirit and the love that connects us with the special people and animals in our lives. The expiration of our physical bodies on earth is not an ending, but a new beginning on a different plane. Within our spirits, we carry the love, knowledge, and relationships we cultivated throughout our lifetimes. Because love is our reason for being and one of the few things we take with us when we go, it makes sense that sharing and expressing our love is vital to our souls. It also explains why our guys and gals in heaven repeatedly send messages about the importance of expressing and showing our love to one another.

Overcoming Fears of Intimacy

Do you hesitate to tell someone you love them? If so, why is it so difficult to say it? Is it because you were raised in an environment in which love was not expressed? Is it because you were hurt in a relationship or relationships in which you loved and it was not returned? The fears that prevent you from sharing your heart were put in place as a challenge for you. The challenge in this type of life lesson is to overcome your fears in order to realize that love is everywhere, and the more you share, the more you receive in return. At first, it may feel awkward or uncomfortable to let your guard down and be vulnerable with someone; however, with the right person, the risk is worth the rewards. Even if someone does not feel the same way you do, at least you expressed the feelings in your heart. You can feel good about that, knowing you have done your best by communicating and sharing the love within your heart for another, whether it is a friend, family member, or significant other.

Giving Gifts from the Soul

For those on the receiving end of a loving message or gesture, it is a blessing and a gift from the soul. Even if you think someone already knows that you love them, show them and tell them anyway. Each person is a unique being, and we cannot profess to know all that is going on within another person’s mind; however, by clearly communicating your feelings, you effectively remove any question someone may have about how you feel about them. Think about how many times you may have agonized about how someone feels about you. Wouldn’t it have been great if you had received clarity directly from that person? This is the gift you can give others when you clearly communicate your feelings in a way that can be heard and accepted by others.

Clear Communication Coupled with Positive Actions

More often than not, it is communication problems that lead to the demise of a relationship. Instead of withholding your feelings out of fear, express them in healthy ways. Tell the people you care about that you love them, and show them your love through your actions. For instance, do something for them that brings a smile to their face, such as making a handmade gift, completing a task or responsibility that will give them free time to relax, or scheduling time for a special experience that will create happy memories. Each one of us wants to be loved, accepted, and appreciated for who we are, and if you are not giving or receiving that in your relationships, it is time for a heart-to-heart conversation about each person’s needs, as well as potential solutions for improving the relationship. If, after the talk, the individuals involved do not follow through or make an effort to improve the situation within a reasonable amount of time, it may be that he or she is not truly vested in the relationship. At that point, you may need to make a decision about whether or not the relationship is worth pursuing.

Remember to Love Who You Are

As you are sharing your love with others, be sure to be kind and loving toward yourself. Schedule time to participate in activities you enjoy, including hobbies, exercise, reading, sports, meditation, and more. Be as kind to yourself as you would be to another. Love is what we are here for, love is what we are, and love is the only thing we take with us when it is time for us to return to heaven.

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing and Reiki. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.

Having Trouble Making a Decision? The Answer Is Inside You

Decision-MakingFrom the moment you open your eyes each day to the time you close them to go to sleep, thousands of options and situations cross your path which require a decision from you. The decisions may be as simple as which toothpaste to buy, or as complex as which job offer you should accept. Each of the decisions you make has an impact on your life, and at times, the over-abundance of options may cause confusion as to which path to take or which option to choose.

A Built-In System for Discerning the Truth
When making any decision, it helps to be informed. Performing research can be very beneficial for the gathering of important information. This research can come from outside sources, such as the Internet, books, and knowledgeable people; however, you also have a built-in system that will help you make the choices that are in your best interest. This is where your intuition comes into play. Listening to your intuition, as well as the heart of your spirit, will lead you in the right direction. As you approach the crossroads of decision-making, your heavenly support team speaks to you through your spirit, and the messages are transmitted through intuitive and extrasensory senses.

Pay Attention to the Signs
If you are confused about which way to go, pay attention to the presence of red flags. Red flags are warning signals to you that can seem to be very subtle; however, if you are attentive and using your senses to guide you, you will be able to see, feel, and hear the truth that will guide you in a positive direction.

When you meet someone new, they will reveal who they are through their words, actions, and energy they share with you. When you get caught up in thinking about the future and your desired outcomes, there can be a tendency to overlook the clues and red flags that they are waving right in front of you in the present moment. For instance, you meet a new guy or gal that you are interested in, and you are completely enamored with them and enjoying the attention you are receiving. In the back of your mind, you may even be hoping that you and this person will be making a significant connection with one another that will lead to a long-term personal or business relationship. In your initial encounter, you will be receiving clues from this person about who they are, and whether or not this relationship will be good for you. Listen very closely to what this person is saying or not saying, how they are acting, and how you feel when you are around them.

Listen to the Messages Behind the Words
A person will reveal to you who they are and what they are interested in through the words they speak. For example, someone who is driven or motivated by money will focus his or her communications on that topic. You need to be actively listening to hear the true motivation behind this person’s words, because they may use flattery to distract your attention. They may even pressure you with strong tactics that attempt to invoke fear in you if you do not purchase his or her product or service on the spot, or go along with his or her plans. When conversation is heavily focused on material aspects, this person is most likely not interested in you or your best interests, but his or her wallet instead.

A person who is genuinely motivated to help you or to develop a relationship with you will not unduly pressure you. They will be interested in learning about you, whether it is for relationship purposes or to help you find a product or service that fits your needs. They will allow you time to make an informed decision. Even under conditions when an on-the-spot decision is required, you have the right to take a moment to process the information you received before making that decision. When someone strongly pressures you with fear-based tactics, it is a red flag because they do not want to give you time to think. They know that if you do, you will realize that this person does not have your interests at heart.

Interpreting Actions
On the surface, a person’s words may seem to be in accordance with your needs; however, this person’s actions may not match his or her words. Ask yourself:

  • Is the person you are interacting with treating you respectfully by being conscientious about your time, your needs, and your feelings?
  • Are they taking care of only his or her needs, or are they honoring yours as well?

The actions they take will reveal whether they truly care about you or if they are not interested in you as a person, but what you can offer them. Someone who does not have your best interests at heart will only be interested in taking care of himself or herself. People do make mistakes sometimes, and they can get wrapped up in their own worlds; however, if you have addressed your concerns with someone, and they do not take consistent steps toward improving the situation with you (taking one nice action and going back to ignoring your needs does not show improvement but a temporary effort to placate you), then they are truly not vested in developing a positive relationship with you.

Energetic and Emotional Clues
Your body and emotions will chime in and give you sensory clues for decisions you are facing. Many people refer to this as heeding your “gut instincts.” That is because the seat of your intuition is the solar plexus chakra, which is located in the region of your stomach. Paying attention to how you feel, such as calmness or anxiousness, as well as being sensitive to the feel of the energy that surrounds a situation or person, can provide you with helpful guidance in the decision-making process.

When you are around someone, pay attention to how his or her energy feels:

  • Are you picking up a negative vibration that is pushing you away or do you feel a positive connection that makes you feel very comfortable in his or her presence?
  • How about when you are purchasing a product or service? Are you strongly hesitating to buy it, or do you feel calm and confident about the choice you are about to make?

Positive energy radiates happiness, calm, peacefulness, and a sense of security. On the opposite end of the spectrum, negative energy feels heavy and uncomfortable. There is an old expression about feeling “tension that you can cut with a knife.” Whoever coined that phrase was very aware of the stress and negative energy that surrounded the situation they were facing.

As a note, both positive and negative energies are contagious. The more aware you are of your own energy, as well as that of others, the more you will be able to prevent yourself from being sucked into another person’s moods. Awareness will also help you become more proficient at determining the source of energy for decision-making purposes.

Putting It All Together
By attentively listening to the words a person shares, paying close attention to his or her actions, and picking up on the energy that you feel, you will be able to better navigate your way through the decision-making process. Combine the information you have received through your senses in order to determine the right path for you. Believe in yourself, and trust that your higher-self and your heavenly support team are assisting you to see, hear, and feel the signs in any situation. By heeding your intuition and following your heart, you will steer yourself in a positive direction that honors you and your needs.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Recognizing when a Problem is not Your Responsibility

Butterfly with Broken WingThere are situations that you will encounter in which it seems as though you are powerless to lend a hand. When facing a dilemma such as this, you can share your love, an empathetic ear, and your kindness. Gifts of the heart can have a profound effect on those that are struggling with life-altering decisions and emotionally painful conditions.

Choices that are Not Yours to Make
No matter how much you want to help someone, there are times when the only help you can offer comes from the heart. This may be because the choices that need to be made in the situation are not yours to make. A prime example would be relationship decisions that friends or relatives need to act upon, such as whether the time has come to break-up or divorce. Other examples include tough choices concerning medical conditions and the mental or emotional health of loved ones. It can be challenging to be an observer to someone else’s pain, especially when it seems as though you can do nothing to ease it.

An Important Contribution
As an observer of a difficult situation that your loved ones are experiencing, you can offer your love, kindness, your listening skills, and prayers. This kind of support can be an invaluable source of positive energy that is not only needed, but also desired. Advice and insight can also be offered; however, the person receiving it may or may not be receptive to it. This may be because he or she is having a hard time incorporating a new perspective. Stubbornness, a strong desire to control outcomes, lack of trust, or an ingrained sense of loyalty are often obstacles to a person’s ability to move beyond a problem. Moreover, even if you offer advice, it may not be an appropriate fit for the situation at hand because you may not be privy to all of the details. Do your best to avoid taking offense if your loved one does not utilize your well-meaning solutions because, ultimately, each person is responsible for his or her own choices. We all must live with the consequences of the decisions that we make. As an alternative to dispensing advice, try listening with empathy and allowing the person to talk about his or her feelings. This may be enough to help him or her to relieve some of the pressure surrounding the situation that is causing the angst.

Love Heals
Do your best not to underestimate or minimize the effect and power of love. Its positive energy can heal a broken heart, provide hope for the future, and offer comfort to those who are experiencing pain. Love is shared and communicated with one another through the heart of our soul. You can send that positive energy to your loved ones with your thoughts and prayers, as well as with physical expressions, such as a hug or soothing touch.

Even when it seems as though there is little that you can offer to someone who is struggling or suffering, remember that love is one of the best gifts that you can give…and it is an energy that you have an infinite supply of to share.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com