The Purpose of the Human Ego and How to Manage Its Effects

Managing the EgoWhen our spirits are in heaven, negativity does not exist. It does exist on earth because it was built into the program for beings to experience an accelerated path for the growth of their souls toward enlightenment. The human ego, the driving force behind earthly negativity, is a mechanism that is built into us when we receive our human bodies. It is placed within us as a personal obstacle that challenges us on a daily basis with its pessimistic views that have the potential to drag us into its shadowy depths. It is important to note that the negativity, worries, fears, regrets, and self-doubt it projects upon our psyches is all an illusion. None of it is real. It certainly feels real, and it certainly can have a very real effect on our lives if we allow it to take over our thought processes. It is the most significant and persistent challenge we face as spiritual beings on a human journey.

By knowing that the negative voice of the ego is an illusion designed to make us examine our belief systems and thought processes, we can learn how to manage its negating and self-destructive effects. This can be accomplished through thought management, love, and examining our souls for the true lessons that are behind the challenges we experience in our lives each day.

Thought Management
We have the power to control our thought processes. It may not appear that way when negative thoughts, concerns, worries, and regrets seem to race through our minds, blocking out all of the positive beliefs and thoughts we hold in our minds. You can learn to manage negative ego-based thoughts by first recognizing their presence and then acknowledging them for what they are—an illusion. Ego-based thoughts are the ones that tell us that we are not good enough, that we are failures or that we will never succeed, that our ideas are worthless, or that we are unlovable. None of these statements are true, and should not be believed because they are borne out of the ego which projects fear as a challenge. Fears are obstacles that are meant to be overcome. By dismissing these thoughts, we can step beyond the illusion of fear that clouds our vision, in order to see the true spirit that resides within us. We were designed by our Creator as perfect beings of light that are capable of accomplishing any task that is placed before us. We have dreams and goals that we are meant to achieve, and can do so because we have been given every tool that we need to succeed. Our first task, though, is to manage the effects of the ego in a way that opens our minds, hearts, and spirits to the potential that lies within our own souls.

The Power of Love in Its Purest Form
The opposite of fear is love. It is through the power of divine love that our spirits were formed. We were born out of love, and are the true essence of love in its purest form. Our memories of this are veiled when our spirits take on the human form. This is done in order to allow us to learn the lessons associated with the human ego. As we evolve and expand our conscious thoughts, we can break through the veil of the ego that conceals this knowledge from our spirits.

To do this, we need to manage the negative effects of the ego, and learn to truly love ourselves for who we are. Any perceived flaws in our human forms have been placed there as a challenge. We are here to love ourselves, flaws and all. As with our spirits, our human forms were created to be unique. These differences show the beauty and value of our individuality, and should be embraced with acceptance, love, and respect for the unique path that each soul has chosen for his or her divine growth and enlightenment.

When you love and respect yourself for who you are, you are more inclined to make decisions that are more in line with you and your dreams. Circumstances that may have brought you down in the past will no longer have the same hold on you, because the love and respect that you have for yourself will help you to remove yourself from situations that have the potential to bring you harm. Loving yourself gives you the strength and compassion you need to stand up for yourself, and to make the decisions that will bring you the most joy and happiness.

Examining the Lessons
Each experience we have on earth is designed for the growth of our soul. We make choices every day about how we will proceed, and how the events that occur will affect us. We are in control of the choices we that make; we are the masters of our own destiny. By examining the circumstances we have encountered and are encountering, and the choices we have made and are in the process of making, we can begin to see the patterns and lessons that are behind our experiences. For example, we may have had a childhood in which one of our parents was overly stern or harsh in their treatment of us. The negative voice of the ego may say that we deserved to be treated that way because we are unlovable. Instead of giving the ego free reign to spread its fear, we can look at the situation as a lesson in learning how not to treat others. It is also an opportunity to learn how to extend forgiveness toward those who have not yet learned to love themselves or manage the effects of the ego that led them to act out of fear and bring harm to other souls.

All of our experiences have positive reasons for occurring. If we take the time to examine them from a viewpoint of love and determining the purpose of life lessons, we can see the step-by-step progression our souls are making toward enlightenment.

Blessings to You on Your Journey
Be patient with yourself as you learn how to manage the ego. It takes time to break the habit of giving in to the negative chatter that the ego spouts. It is a persistent voice that tried to demand and command your attention in a manner that is similar to a toddler throwing a tantrum. Like the toddler, the ego yells and screams until it is appeased, or until it realizes that its unacceptable behavior is being ignored. And also like the toddler, if you give in to the ego’s unrealistic demands, then you will be rewarded with more tantrums. If you learn how to ignore the ego’s negative rants, it will realize the futility of its efforts, and will begin to recognize that something greater than it is in charge—the true and loving spirit that resides within you.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Set Yourself Free through Forgiveness

Set Yourself Free Through ForgivenessWhether it is painful events in the recent past or from as far back as childhood, emotional, mental, and spiritual trauma can be released from your spirit through forgiveness of the person or people involved, including yourself.

Complex Decisions and Challenging Situations
As spiritual beings on a human journey, we decided to live a lifetime on this earth to learn lessons that will enable us to grow as souls. Many of the lessons we have chosen require complex decisions and challenging situations that can have a significant impact on the evolvement of not only our souls, but also on the souls of others. Because we are in a stage of learning, and are not all-knowing beings, mistakes will be made. It is important to forgive each other for the mistakes we make and to look beyond the pain to the lessons that are built into the situations we encounter on a daily basis.

Reasons and Choices
In order for our souls to evolve to a clearer understanding of the reasons for our existence, it is necessary to face challenges that make us question and think about our self-worth, our relationships and connections with others, and whether or not there really is a higher power that guides us. The reason you experience tragic, sad, or disheartening events is not to drag you down, but to give you a choice. You can choose to let these situations mire you in negativity and self-pity, or you can choose see the blessings and lessons that God and the angels are assisting you with in order to open your heart, mind, and spirit to the truth that exists within your soul.

Why It Is Beneficial to Forgive
Forgiveness is an acknowledgement and a release of actions from the past that caused harm to yourself or others. Extending forgiveness does not mean that you are condoning the behavior that caused you or others harm. It means that you have come to terms with the situation and have made a conscious decision to release its hold on you. By recognizing that these events served a very important purpose in your soul evolvement, you can also learn how to express gratefulness for the lessons you learned. In order to do that though, you must be able to look beyond the pain in order to see how you were given the opportunity to grow as a soul. The rewards you receive for perceiving the patterns and lessons behind traumatizing events includes amazing enlightenment about yourself, others, and the universe as a whole, as well as a realization that these events were necessary steps toward achieving your dreams in this lifetime.

It is important to note that you do not have to be in someone’s presence in order to forgive them. You can extend forgiveness in your heart and mind by sending forgiving thoughts toward the situation and the people involved. Our connection in spirit with one another allows the messages to be received by the spirit of the person you are forgiving. The people that are here on earth may or may not be consciously aware of your message of forgiveness; however, the spirit that resides within them will have received and acknowledged the forgiveness you have extended.

What Happens When You Refuse to Forgive
Holding grudges, anger, and pain inside of yourself hurts you. Those negative emotions and thoughts prevent you from moving forward and draw toward you more unfortunate circumstances. When you are focused on the lower energies produced by fear and anger, you are dragging down your own energy. This will attract more situations to you that are harmful. By choosing to release negative emotions, you are releasing their hold on you. This will lighten your energetic load and free you up to attract more positive experiences in your life. Keep in mind that how you live your life is your choice. Whether you decide to remain mired in misery or rise above the challenges you face, it is the gift of free will that gives you the option to choose the path that you take.

If you need help extending forgiveness, you can ask the archangels for assistance. They will help you to release the negativity and heal the pain that you have been carrying.

Repetition May Be Necessary
Even after you have extended forgiveness, there may be times when a situation will appear in your life that will bring to the surface old pain and remembrances of harmful situations. When this happens, you can extend forgiveness again and visualize the situation and the people involved as healed.

Choosing to be Free
As you make the choice to free yourself from the past, you are also making the choice to open yourself up to love and more positive experiences. Your spirit will be lighter, and you may even feel as though a physical weight has been lifted from your body. Enjoy the benefits and freedom that comes from releasing your past, and shift your focus to the present—which is full of gifts and opportunities for making positive choices regarding your life path.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Recognizing when a Problem is not Your Responsibility

Butterfly with Broken WingThere are situations that you will encounter in which it seems as though you are powerless to lend a hand. When facing a dilemma such as this, you can share your love, an empathetic ear, and your kindness. Gifts of the heart can have a profound effect on those that are struggling with life-altering decisions and emotionally painful conditions.

Choices that are Not Yours to Make
No matter how much you want to help someone, there are times when the only help you can offer comes from the heart. This may be because the choices that need to be made in the situation are not yours to make. A prime example would be relationship decisions that friends or relatives need to act upon, such as whether the time has come to break-up or divorce. Other examples include tough choices concerning medical conditions and the mental or emotional health of loved ones. It can be challenging to be an observer to someone else’s pain, especially when it seems as though you can do nothing to ease it.

An Important Contribution
As an observer of a difficult situation that your loved ones are experiencing, you can offer your love, kindness, your listening skills, and prayers. This kind of support can be an invaluable source of positive energy that is not only needed, but also desired. Advice and insight can also be offered; however, the person receiving it may or may not be receptive to it. This may be because he or she is having a hard time incorporating a new perspective. Stubbornness, a strong desire to control outcomes, lack of trust, or an ingrained sense of loyalty are often obstacles to a person’s ability to move beyond a problem. Moreover, even if you offer advice, it may not be an appropriate fit for the situation at hand because you may not be privy to all of the details. Do your best to avoid taking offense if your loved one does not utilize your well-meaning solutions because, ultimately, each person is responsible for his or her own choices. We all must live with the consequences of the decisions that we make. As an alternative to dispensing advice, try listening with empathy and allowing the person to talk about his or her feelings. This may be enough to help him or her to relieve some of the pressure surrounding the situation that is causing the angst.

Love Heals
Do your best not to underestimate or minimize the effect and power of love. Its positive energy can heal a broken heart, provide hope for the future, and offer comfort to those who are experiencing pain. Love is shared and communicated with one another through the heart of our soul. You can send that positive energy to your loved ones with your thoughts and prayers, as well as with physical expressions, such as a hug or soothing touch.

Even when it seems as though there is little that you can offer to someone who is struggling or suffering, remember that love is one of the best gifts that you can give…and it is an energy that you have an infinite supply of to share.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Happiness is a Choice

Happiness is a ChoiceUltimately, you are responsible for your own happiness. This is because you are in full control of how you react to situations and people. That is the only thing that you are in control of—your actions or reactions to the environment around you. When a seemingly negative event occurs, you can choose to let the negativity take over your psyche or you can opt to look for the positive in the situation and what you can learn from it. There are always healthy, positive lessons that can be learned from experiences that appear negative on the surface. The key to happiness is in choosing to look past the immediate negativity of circumstances in order to see the blessing that is intended for your soul’s progression.

There are people that I have encountered that never seem to be happy, even when what they have asked for is delivered to them. When their dreams and answers to their prayers are delivered to them, they pick them apart, overlooking the positive and diving deep to find something to complain about. Most of the time, it is some small nitpicky detail that most people wouldn’t think twice about; however, they choose to blow it out of proportion and decide to let it ruin their experience. For whatever reason, these people CHOOSE to live their lives in misery and often blame other people and circumstances for their problems. What they are not seeing is that they are the one ones responsible for their actions and reactions. Sure, other people may cause a negative situation to appear in your life; however, you do not have to let it take you down a path of destruction and self-pity. You can choose to recognize the situation for what it is, determine the path you are going to take to improve the situation, and learn from it. Our reactions will then determine our personal level of happiness. It is entirely up to us whether we mire ourselves in negativity or choose a more positive path.

For example, I recently experienced a situation where my flight was delayed due to inclement weather. I could’ve crabbed and complained about the situation; however, what would that have accomplished? Would it have changed the flight schedule and removed the delay? No. Would it have stopped the severe lightning storms that caused the delay? Again, the answer is no. I chose instead to look at the situation in a more positive light. Maybe I would meet interesting people while waiting for the next flight and/or use that extra time to work on my blog, read my book, or relax. As it turns out, I did meet some interesting people. There is always a reason for the situations we encounter, whether they are positive or negative. If I had decided to embrace the negativity instead of the positive of the situation, I might have missed out on opportunities because I would have been too mired in my own complaining that I wouldn’t have been open to what was being offered to me…interesting conversation and time to relax after a busy week of travel. In addition, I was happier knowing that the FAA was holding off on our flight for safety reasons. When we did get off the ground, the flight was less turbulent than it would’ve been had we flown right into the storms. Again, it was a blessing in disguise.

When I encounter people who brood and wallow in negativity, I choose not to let these people bring me down. Both positivity and negativity are infectious. I may attempt to counter their negative comments with positive ones and a bright smile; however, if they return my kindness with more negativity, I simply walk away and continue to enjoy my day by taking responsibility for my own happiness. I don’t need or want to be in a foul mood; therefore, I choose not to get sucked in to someone else’s choices to be in one by removing myself from the situation. It is not that I am giving up on this person, it is that I am recognizing and appreciating the fact that they alone are responsible for their happiness and, at the moment, they are choosing to take a road of misery that is one road upon which I don’t want to travel. Why would I when there are so many great opportunities to experience joy and happiness every day of our lives?

By choosing to be happy, you are not only opening yourself up to wonderful opportunities and experiences, but you are also showing your Heavenly Support Team your appreciation and gratitude for the gifts they bestow upon you every day. Complaining about a gift is a great way to ensure you won’t get another and it will also alienate you from the givers and the people around you…which you could always complain about, or you can choose to move beyond the negativity and open yourself up to the life you were meant to live with happiness and joy. It’s what God and the Angels want for all of us. The choice is completely up to us regarding whether or not we choose to accept their gifts.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

The Gift of You

Beautiful SunflowerThe major theme that emerged this week had to do with how hard we are on ourselves and how we need to take time out to appreciate who we are and all of the accomplishments that we have achieved so far during our time here on Earth. It takes a conscious effort to turn your thought patterns around because negative thinking can become a habit. It pushes its way into our lives every day, but we can choose to deflect it and even step beyond the clouds that hover in order to see the light of our own souls.

A great way to start this shift in consciousness is to write a list about all of your accomplishments in this life, as well as all of your positive attributes. Sit in a quiet spot, place your hands over your heart, and take a deep breath in and exhale out. As you exhale, tell your ego to stop the mind-chatter. Dismiss all of your everyday concerns and focus on you and your heart. If you need help focusing, ask your Angels for assistance. They will be delighted to help you with this task.

Breathe deeply at least three times, then start thinking about you and your positive accomplishments, both planned and unplanned. Think about what you have done in your life and the kindnesses you have extended, as well as the moments that made you feel good about yourself. Write them on your list. Be honest. This list is for you, not anyone else. Keep the entire list positive. If any negative thoughts intrude, push the mind chatter of the ego away and get back to your list. Once you get going, I think you will be amazed at what your list reveals.

Whenever negativity intrudes or you are feeling particularly blue, pull out your list to remind yourself of how wonderful your life really has been. Keep the list growing by adding your accomplishments, big and small, as well as positive life-altering events and moments that have brought you joy and happiness. The list will keep growing as your soul evolves.

Even though we are focusing on the positive, it is important to know that adversity and negativity does serve its purpose. It may have even led to some of the more important and happy times in your life by clearing away that which is no long useful or by pushing you to go beyond your perceived limits to help you achieve your dreams.

Without darkness, there would be no light. The problem comes in when we let it rule our lives and thoughts, making it seem as if negative experiences are the expected norm in our lives. They are not. All experiences can be learned from and utilized for good. By making a list of your accomplishments and positive attributes, you are giving yourself the opportunity to see and appreciate all of your life experiences and the gift of you.

Blessings to all of you!

With Light and Love,
Karen

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Our Thoughts Determine Our Destinies

Lotus_White_300x200We have all heard about the power of positive thinking and how our thoughts determine our destiny; however, how many of us truly believe that and actually live that?

There are some wonderful dreams that I would like to see manifested in my life, as I am sure you have in yours. I have made a definitive decision to actively send out positive thoughts toward my true heart’s desires and have asked the Angels to help me to achieve them. I let go of trying to make these dreams manifest on my own because I know my vision here on Earth is limited. The Angels see more than we do and can help guide us on the right path. I know that I must open myself up to the guidance that they give me and to always keep my thoughts positive about my dreams. I do this by infusing a bright light around my dreams and visualizing them in their wholeness as already completed.

The message that the Angels want me to share with you is to open your mind and imagination. Visualize your deepest desires and dreams coming true. See yourself basking in the happiness that is truly yours to live. Your dreams are meant to come true, regardless of the circumstances around us. If we can dream it, we can live it. All we have to do is truly believe with all of our hearts that we not only deserve this happiness, but also can experience the materialization of our dreams in our lifetimes here on Earth, not just in Heaven.

Keep in mind that the way our dreams will manifest may involve circumstances that appear negative on the surface. Let go of momentary disappointment in the small twists and turns that our lives take as these seemingly negative circumstances or events may be necessary to clear out obstacles that were impeding our progress. Be open to change, take it all in stride, and take time each day to acknowledge with gratitude the positive events and circumstances in your life every day. Keep visualizing your actualized dream. The Angels, who assist the Creator in manifesting our happiness, will help you. All you have to do is ask for their help and truly believe that they are assisting you.

I am interested in hearing about your dreams and what you are doing to make them a reality. Please feel free to share in the comments section below.

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com