How We Can Change the World

We are living through some very interesting times right now. There is great chaos, loneliness, and rage which swirls throughout our world, creating a negative and unpleasant pall over what could be a better life for all. Pervasive fear-based thoughts have the ability to obscure love and cause people to take hurtful actions toward one another. I think there are people who have forgotten how to love or are afraid of loving with their whole selves.

There is Honor in Love

It can be scary to think of how much pain someone can inflict on you by not loving you with similar caring. I know how much it hurts to face the unflinching truth that you have been loving someone with everything you have, only to come to the realization your love is not being returned. To experience multiple relationships in which love is denied breaks your heart and dims your light for a bit, as sadness threatens to creep in and take over. It is in these moments we can learn to love ourselves and to appreciate all that we gave in honor of love, in honor of another, and in honor of ourselves. Even though the other party did not reciprocate, it does not mean we are any less for the experience. If anything, we learned the ways we love. We learned how to recognize what we do not want in our lives. We learned how to stand up to diversity and challenges. We learned how to get up again after we stumble or fall. Because we WILL try again. Our hearts and souls were made from love and for love. There are people out there who will love us for who we are, who will understand us, who will be kind and caring, and who will respect the beautiful souls we are. Proof of this rests within our own hearts. If we have it, others have it. I have never regretted loving someone, even if the love I shared was not reciprocated. It is from those experiences I have learned. Most importantly, I know I gave it my all, was true to myself, and put forth my authentic self.

Be Your Authentic Self

In many ways, people hide their true feelings, are afraid to be themselves for fear of judgment, and may feel beaten down by life. Life is not an easy road. People will judge you, but that does not mean you need to take their judgments to heart. Examine where these judgments are coming from. Are they hurtful insults spouted out of fear from another person or are they truthful assessments of who you are? There are many obstacles we encounter in life, however, by being honest with yourself and letting your authentic self shine through without fear, you can truly enjoy a more satisfying existence. When life is lived on a surface level, you rob yourself of incredible experiences. Lack of depth acts as a shield, preventing love from getting through. It is only through risk that we achieve and receive the wonderful gifts of this world. Learning to move past fears opens up opportunities and welcomes in the potential for greatest experiences love can bring.

Loving Yourself and Others

Simple ways to show love include attentively listen when someone is speaking, being mindful of other people’s feelings by putting ourselves in another’s shoes, respecting and caring for one another as human beings who are on this tough journey together, being partners who work together toward common goals while also attending to our personal spiritual journeys, and giving from the heart. I say these are simple because we all have the ability within us to do these things; to take these actions. They cost us our time, but they do not cost us our love, because we have an endless supply of it. Life is actually so much more enjoyable when we love one another, when we know we can count on someone to be there for us and us for them. In order to do this, we must also love ourselves by showing ourselves the love and kindness we deserve. Work on halting negative self-talk by replacing it with positive affirmations about yourself. We all make mistakes. Learning from them and taking responsibility for them are two of the most important lessons we receive from making mistakes. Objectively examine the events which have taken place, including your role. Are there other actions you could have taken? If so, what would they be? How can you do better the next time? Have you sincerely apologized? Are you willing to work towards improving or eliminating the behaviors which caused the missteps? Remember to forgive yourself in order to give yourself the opportunity to move past the feelings of self-disappointment and progress toward self-improvement.

Forgiveness Mends the Soul

As for extending forgiveness to others, deeply consider their actions, as well as the genuineness of their request for forgiveness. Is this a person who repeatedly makes the same mistakes and has shown no desire to improve? Has this person severely crossed boundaries and inflicted great pain on yourself or others you love? Was there a miscommunication? Is this a person who truly has a desire to learn and grow from this situation? You will know the difference. You will know in your soul whether someone has your best interests at heart. Listen within to your own personal guidance system, known as your intuition, and pay attention to the red flags alerting you of any trouble. You can forgive. You can also make the choice not to spend time with a particular person. Forgiveness is not condoning. It is a releasing of pent up pain by letting go of the anger, resentment, and disappointment, and embracing a new path of freedom from pain with clarity and decisiveness. You do not need to invest more time in someone who is not willing to discontinue their behaviors or admit their actions were in error. Loving who you are also means knowing when to walk away from situations that are not in alignment with the way you want to be treated. You can release the situation and the residual pain by sending forgiveness from the heart of your spirit to theirs. You do not need to be in their presence to do this. By freeing yourself of these negative and unproductive energies, you provide yourself the opportunity to live a more satisfying and happy life by investing your time and energies into that which brings happiness to your soul.

When you do forgive someone and want to move forward with them, be kind. They know and have admitted wrongdoing. Give them a chance to show you they meant what they said. There are times when people slide backwards a bit, but as long as they continually strive to do better with genuine efforts, it may be worth it to give them another chance. You would want the same if you were in their shoes.

Reinvest in Love

I would love to see a reinvestment in love on this earth. Lately, there has been a significant emphasis on negativity and hurting one another. This trend can be countered with a tremendous amount of love. It starts with each and every one of us taking actions each day to not only show and share love, but also be open to receiving it by letting others into our hearts. As a society of people on a collective spiritual journey, we can help one another by lifting each other up, by loving who we are, and by loving others for who they are. Each interaction we have with one another can help us to take steps toward healing the epidemic of loneliness and rage that has crept into our world. Each act of kindness and genuine caring touches souls who then pass that along to the next soul. We have the power to change this world. Let us work together to be the positive change we want to experience on our collective spiritual journey.

Namaste!

With Love and Light,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, Spiritual Artist, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, spiritual artist, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through spirit medium readings and angel readings, speaking engagements, and workshops she instructs, as well as through her writing, Reiki, and fine art spiritual paintings. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.
 
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Follow Your Heart

Love Is the Reason for our Existence by Karen T. HluchanFor the most important aspects of your life, such as relationships and your vocation, the best path for you to take is the one that is dictated by your heart. When you are truly looking within, you know what you desire your life to be. The path to realizing your heartfelt desires may not be the easiest one you will take, but it will be the most rewarding because you will be fulfilling the purpose of your soul.

Throughout our lives, we create and share a variety of relationships. It is through these connections that we cultivate love and learn how to successfully communicate with one another. When you invite someone into your life, you are providing an opening for the development of a relationship. As you get to know someone, you make choices about whether the relationship is healthy and beneficial for you. If you are with someone that you know in your heart is not good for you, misery creeps into your life, especially if you continue to remain in that relationship. It is because you are allowing fear to rule your life, instead of your heart. Deep down, you know which relationships you should keep and which ones you should end. It does not matter what other people’s opinions are regarding this topic. What matters is that you follow what you know to be true for you.

With regard to jobs and careers, it is sometimes necessary for monetary reasons to work for an employer or to perform a job that is not the right one for you. If you are in a job situation in which you are deeply dissatisfied, then it is time to look within your heart to determine the path that would bring you the greatest happiness. What activities do you enjoy? What classes can you take to improve your skills? Can you turn it into a profitable vocation? How can you incorporate the activities and skills you enjoy into the work that you already perform? Keep an open mind and do your best to move beyond your fears. As you are developing your ideas and growing your skills, you may need to continue to work in the job that is not the best fit. The positive actions you are taking toward enjoyable employment will uplift your spirits and help you to endure the less desirable job situation.

Our daily challenges are to overcome the fear that holds us back from living the life we truly desire. Fear is an illusion manifested by the negative voice of the ego. An integral part of our life purposes as human beings is to step beyond the worries and fears in order to see the truth within our souls. When we do that, we are in sync with the universe and our most heartfelt desires come to life on this plane. The path to your happiness and the answers to your questions can be found within your heart, the place through which your soul speaks.

Any time you feel you need assistance, whether it is for strengthening your resolve, support in making the changes that would usher in more happiness in your life, or more faith in yourself or your dreams, you can ask God and the angels for their help. They are there for you and will guide you and support you. Have patience, listen to the guidance provided to you through your heart, and trust that everything will work out for the best for you…and it will.

Namaste!

With much love and many blessings for all,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, Spiritual Artist, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, spiritual artist, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing, Reiki, and fine art spiritual paintings. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.
 
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Messages from the Other Side: The Soul Importance of Expressing and Showing Love

I love you!Heaven is a place filled with love and knowledge. When our loved ones cross over into heaven, they experience an awakening as they review their lives and realize the impact of their actions while on earth. I cannot even begin to count the number of times people have come through in spirit asking for forgiveness for the lack of love that they showed or expressed when they were here. This type of message is not only to ease the hearts of those receiving it, but also to teach us about the vital importance of expressing and showing our love to one another while we are living on earth.

Generators of Positive Energy

Everything we are and everything we do is based in love. We are created from the supreme power of love by our Creator, and we are meant to continue to generate the purity of that love through the actions we take on a daily basis. As souls on a human journey, we face many challenges here on earth. It is the relationships and love we cultivate that helps us through the dark times and brings us great joy when we celebrate the light. We are truly here to help one another. All of the mundane problems of everyday life are but catalysts to encourage us to work through our problems together; to search out and find the love that is already there in the hearts of all of our spirits.

You Can Take It with You

When we cross over into heaven, we take with us our spirit and the love that connects us with the special people and animals in our lives. The expiration of our physical bodies on earth is not an ending, but a new beginning on a different plane. Within our spirits, we carry the love, knowledge, and relationships we cultivated throughout our lifetimes. Because love is our reason for being and one of the few things we take with us when we go, it makes sense that sharing and expressing our love is vital to our souls. It also explains why our guys and gals in heaven repeatedly send messages about the importance of expressing and showing our love to one another.

Overcoming Fears of Intimacy

Do you hesitate to tell someone you love them? If so, why is it so difficult to say it? Is it because you were raised in an environment in which love was not expressed? Is it because you were hurt in a relationship or relationships in which you loved and it was not returned? The fears that prevent you from sharing your heart were put in place as a challenge for you. The challenge in this type of life lesson is to overcome your fears in order to realize that love is everywhere, and the more you share, the more you receive in return. At first, it may feel awkward or uncomfortable to let your guard down and be vulnerable with someone; however, with the right person, the risk is worth the rewards. Even if someone does not feel the same way you do, at least you expressed the feelings in your heart. You can feel good about that, knowing you have done your best by communicating and sharing the love within your heart for another, whether it is a friend, family member, or significant other.

Giving Gifts from the Soul

For those on the receiving end of a loving message or gesture, it is a blessing and a gift from the soul. Even if you think someone already knows that you love them, show them and tell them anyway. Each person is a unique being, and we cannot profess to know all that is going on within another person’s mind; however, by clearly communicating your feelings, you effectively remove any question someone may have about how you feel about them. Think about how many times you may have agonized about how someone feels about you. Wouldn’t it have been great if you had received clarity directly from that person? This is the gift you can give others when you clearly communicate your feelings in a way that can be heard and accepted by others.

Clear Communication Coupled with Positive Actions

More often than not, it is communication problems that lead to the demise of a relationship. Instead of withholding your feelings out of fear, express them in healthy ways. Tell the people you care about that you love them, and show them your love through your actions. For instance, do something for them that brings a smile to their face, such as making a handmade gift, completing a task or responsibility that will give them free time to relax, or scheduling time for a special experience that will create happy memories. Each one of us wants to be loved, accepted, and appreciated for who we are, and if you are not giving or receiving that in your relationships, it is time for a heart-to-heart conversation about each person’s needs, as well as potential solutions for improving the relationship. If, after the talk, the individuals involved do not follow through or make an effort to improve the situation within a reasonable amount of time, it may be that he or she is not truly vested in the relationship. At that point, you may need to make a decision about whether or not the relationship is worth pursuing.

Remember to Love Who You Are

As you are sharing your love with others, be sure to be kind and loving toward yourself. Schedule time to participate in activities you enjoy, including hobbies, exercise, reading, sports, meditation, and more. Be as kind to yourself as you would be to another. Love is what we are here for, love is what we are, and love is the only thing we take with us when it is time for us to return to heaven.

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Karen T. Hluchan is a spirit medium, motivational speaker, Reiki master, and author of How Have You Loved? Through her mediumship practice, Healing Spirit with Love, she devotes her time to the healing of spirit on earth through her connection with heaven. Her passion for her calling is shared through the spirit readings, demonstrations, and workshops she provides, as well as through her writing and Reiki. All of her work is inspired by the divine light that is within us all. She has a great love of nature, people, and the planet, and she enjoys her connection in spirit, both here and in heaven.

When Pets Cross Over into Heaven

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Shadow (2012)

Animals, especially our pets, have a special place in many of our hearts. The unconditional love they share with us is a model for how we can love one another. Anyone who has fallen in love with their pet knows they give so much love and gratitude for our companionship and care. When it comes time for them to cross over into heaven, it is a loss that is felt deeply by all in the household, including other pets.

Surrounded by Loving Beings

When the time comes for our beloved animal companions to cross over to the Other Side, it can be a very emotional and heartbreaking time. It is comforting to know that our pets, just like human beings, are surrounded by spirit guides, loved ones in spirit, and the angels during their transition to heaven. Recently, when my cat, Shadow, passed, I asked the angels to show me his journey in order to share with you what happens when our pets cross over into heaven.

Spirit Guides Ease Their Transition

When Shadow passed, his spirit guides were there to show him the way to heaven. As with people, the guides are unique to the animal. Each being is born with a spirit guide who remains with them for their time on earth, and animals are no different. When pets cross over, their personal spirit guide is there, as well as deceased loved ones who knew them (people and animals), angels, past spiritual masters, and even God. The guides are there to inform them that their physical body has expired, indicating it is time to cross over into heaven. The pull of love is strong on earth, especially if there were deep bonds formed with their companion family. The guides gently let them know it is time to move on to heaven, and that they will never truly be separated from their earthly companions because the love they share will keep them connected. They let them know that, once they have crossed, they can visit in spirit with their loved ones on earth to give them comfort and signs that they are around. Like people, pets can be scared of being separated from loved ones and the life they knew; however, the angels bring peace to their hearts and minds, easing their transition.

Time for Orientation

In the same way that people have an orientation to heaven, animals are also given an introduction and an educational session about heaven. They learn about their new home, as well as what they can do while they are there, including how they can communicate and help their loved ones on earth. They are reunited with loved ones who have crossed over before them, including animal parents and siblings, as well as people who knew them and loved them. The angels, guides, and deceased loved ones often volunteer to watch over them as they await the arrival of their companion family on earth.

Grief Transformed Through Understanding

As with those of us on earth, our beloved pets do experience some sorrow during their transition to heaven. It is natural to feel a sense of loss for the life and companions they knew on earth; however, the grief does not last like it does on earth because the abundant peace and love of heaven embraces them. In addition, they are given the gift of knowledge and enlightenment that allows them to better understand the workings of the universe and their role in it. Any pain they felt in life disappears, and they are transformed into younger and healthier versions of themselves. They are free to run and play, make new friends, roll in the softest spring green grass, and curl up in the warmth of the sun with loved ones.

Visiting Loved Ones on Earth

Kitten bottle feeding

Shadow holding his own bottle. (September 2000)

After their initial period of transition has been completed and grief over your loss has eased, your pets will visit you on earth. You may catch a glimpse of them out of the corner of your eye or see images that remind you of them, you may feel them curled up next to you on the couch or bed, and you may also hear the joyful sounds they used to make just for you. When animals communicate with me both here and from the Other Side, it is very similar to the way human loved ones in spirit communicate with me. They use all of my senses to transmit their messages, and the thought impressions I receive are translated into a spoken language I understand. When they communicate with you, you may receive signs and messages through images, sounds, feelings, smells, and more. It is not a coincidence that the day after Shadow passed a video popped up on one of my social media newsfeeds of a very young kitten holding its own bottle as it was being fed kitten replacement milk. When I adopted Shadow into my heart almost fifteen years ago, he was only two weeks old. Because he was abandoned by his natural mother at such a young age, he needed to be bottle-fed kitten replacement milk. I thought it was adorable how Shadow would hold his kitten-sized bottle with his paws. On an interesting side note, all kittens and puppies are born with brilliant blue eyes, just like human babies. If an extremely young animal comes under your care, you should take it to the veterinarian as soon as possible. They have very special needs, ones that you would not even think about, that need to be immediately addressed.

Love Connection

Our beloved pets and companions leave impressions of their love on our hearts. The relationships we build and nurture on earth with all beings creates a bond that cannot be broken with the expiration of our physical bodies. Love is the strongest energy in the universe. It is the ultimate power that links each and every one of us together. It is the spark of life that created our souls, and when we find others whose spark grows and expands within each other’s company, we know we have found our soulmates, our twin flames, and our spiritual family.

Blessings and love to you and yours. May your soul be eased with the love of the angels.

In Memoriam of Shadow

Shadow_August 3, 2015In memory of my sweet and loving Shadow, who will always be my hero, loving companion, and special boy. Rest in peace and enjoy your time in heaven. Thank you for 15 glorious years of love on earth.

September 3, 2000 – August 3, 2015

 

Endings are New Beginnings in Disguise

Rainbow Around the SunThroughout our lives, we meet many people. Some of those people will become good friends, best friends, partners, or spouses. When we welcome people into our lives, it is with the hope that the relationships will be long-lasting and bring much happiness to our lives and to the lives of the people with whom we are involved. Sometimes, though, people grow apart and discover that they are no longer compatible, or we truly see someone for who they are and not who we wish them to be. At other times, relationships gradually fizzle away because one or both parties are not actively putting in the effort to maintain the connection. Whatever the reason or the cause, it is important to know that not all relationships are meant to last a lifetime, even if that is what we hoped for and prayed for in our lifetimes.

Prayers Answered
The endings can be sad; however, they can also open up our lives to new opportunities for happiness. God and the archangels hear our prayers, and they know what would ultimately bring us greater happiness in the long run. The ending of a relationship may be their way of making room in your life for someone or something better. The ending may be temporary, or it may be permanent. Either way, when the ending occurs, ask God and the archangels to help you deal with the change. If you need more faith to believe in the positive outcome of the situation, ask for it. If you need help healing your heart, ask for it. Be open to the assistance you receive. It may come in the form of a calmness in your heart caused by the gentle acceptance of the situation, or it may come in the form of a friend or family member who helps you through the challenging times

Trust the Path You Are On
To help yourself to heal and make the most of your experiences with a relationship that has ended or is in the process of ending, take a look at the relationship as a whole to see what you have learned from the experience. Express gratitude for the lessons learned and the love shared, express forgiveness to yourself and others, allow yourself time to heal, and then move forward with your life with the mindset of an adventurer. New experiences and people await discovery in your life’s journey, and by opening your heart and your mind, you give yourself the opportunity to embrace the changes that are a part of your soul’s evolution. Let go and let God steer the ship for a while. He is an excellent captain to have at the helm, especially when stormy seas are tossing you around. God will bring you safely into harbor, where you can explore the adventures that await you through the new people you meet and the situations you encounter.

Look Forward to New Beginnings
Remember, endings are new beginnings in disguise. In order to make room in your life for your prayers to be answered, sometimes it is necessary for one relationship or situation to end before another, more positive, experience can begin.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Your Self-Worth Is Not Measured by the Opinions of Others

Self-WorthHave you taken a non-judgmental look inside your heart and spirit to assess the traits that define the essence of who you are? Have you accepted all of those traits in a loving manner by embracing and recognizing the positive ones, and acknowledging the ones that need a little work? 

Self-Awareness and Love
Knowing who you are and loving who you are, are important factors for claiming the power within you that is rightfully yours. When you allow the negative words and actions of others to define you, you are giving other people the power to dim the light within you.

Determining the Reason behind Communications
There is a very big difference between someone providing you with constructive feedback and someone hurling insults and hurtful words at you. The clues to determining the difference are in the delivery and the motivation for the feedback.

When Love Is the Motivator
When people have your best interest at heart, they will speak to you in a respectful manner, and the thoughts they share with you come from the heart. The person who speaks with you in this manner is genuinely interested in your welfare, and would like to help you succeed.

When Fear Is the Motivator
On the opposite end of the spectrum, when people say vicious or mean things to you using sarcastic, biting, or angry tones, they are projecting their own negative feelings about themselves on you. The motivation for such behavior is based in fear. Often, it is because they envy what you possess and are afraid that they will never have it themselves. In this person’s mind, they mistakenly think that putting you down will raise themselves up. Instead of taking responsibility for themselves and their personal happiness, they lash out at you. When facing an onslaught such as this, you need to be strong enough in your own right in order to recognize the motivation behind this behavior, and to dismiss it as someone else’s fears and not a reflection of who you are.

How to Achieve the Best Results
In relationships and communications, it is love, self-love and love toward others, that creates the outcomes we desire. Coming from a place of fear or attempting to instill fear in others may temporarily achieve certain results; however, in the long-term, it eats away at the levels of trust and can ultimately destroy interpersonal relations.

How You Can Choose to React
When you encounter people who are operating from a place of fear instead of love, you can choose to dismiss their comments and hurtful behavior and move on with your life. Whether it was a momentary transgression or a more problematic aspect of someone’s behavior, try to take a more understanding and compassionate approach by knowing that each person is doing their best to grapple with the issues that we contend with on earth. We all make mistakes, and, hopefully, we learn from them. Within your heart, mind, and soul, forgive the person for their transgression, and wish them love, health, and happiness.

You Determine Your Self-Worth
All in all, when you love yourself for who you are and you operate from a standpoint of love, you can more easily recognize when someone’s behavior is motivated by his or her fears, and not genuine feedback that you should take to heart. Your self-worth is a value that is defined by you, and only you. The actions you take and the thoughts you share display to others the value you hold for yourself in your heart, mind, and spirit. Believe in you, and love who you are, because you are a beautiful light in this world who deserves an abundance of happiness and love.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan

Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Set Yourself Free through Forgiveness

Set Yourself Free Through ForgivenessWhether it is painful events in the recent past or from as far back as childhood, emotional, mental, and spiritual trauma can be released from your spirit through forgiveness of the person or people involved, including yourself.

Complex Decisions and Challenging Situations
As spiritual beings on a human journey, we decided to live a lifetime on this earth to learn lessons that will enable us to grow as souls. Many of the lessons we have chosen require complex decisions and challenging situations that can have a significant impact on the evolvement of not only our souls, but also on the souls of others. Because we are in a stage of learning, and are not all-knowing beings, mistakes will be made. It is important to forgive each other for the mistakes we make and to look beyond the pain to the lessons that are built into the situations we encounter on a daily basis.

Reasons and Choices
In order for our souls to evolve to a clearer understanding of the reasons for our existence, it is necessary to face challenges that make us question and think about our self-worth, our relationships and connections with others, and whether or not there really is a higher power that guides us. The reason you experience tragic, sad, or disheartening events is not to drag you down, but to give you a choice. You can choose to let these situations mire you in negativity and self-pity, or you can choose see the blessings and lessons that God and the angels are assisting you with in order to open your heart, mind, and spirit to the truth that exists within your soul.

Why It Is Beneficial to Forgive
Forgiveness is an acknowledgement and a release of actions from the past that caused harm to yourself or others. Extending forgiveness does not mean that you are condoning the behavior that caused you or others harm. It means that you have come to terms with the situation and have made a conscious decision to release its hold on you. By recognizing that these events served a very important purpose in your soul evolvement, you can also learn how to express gratefulness for the lessons you learned. In order to do that though, you must be able to look beyond the pain in order to see how you were given the opportunity to grow as a soul. The rewards you receive for perceiving the patterns and lessons behind traumatizing events includes amazing enlightenment about yourself, others, and the universe as a whole, as well as a realization that these events were necessary steps toward achieving your dreams in this lifetime.

It is important to note that you do not have to be in someone’s presence in order to forgive them. You can extend forgiveness in your heart and mind by sending forgiving thoughts toward the situation and the people involved. Our connection in spirit with one another allows the messages to be received by the spirit of the person you are forgiving. The people that are here on earth may or may not be consciously aware of your message of forgiveness; however, the spirit that resides within them will have received and acknowledged the forgiveness you have extended.

What Happens When You Refuse to Forgive
Holding grudges, anger, and pain inside of yourself hurts you. Those negative emotions and thoughts prevent you from moving forward and draw toward you more unfortunate circumstances. When you are focused on the lower energies produced by fear and anger, you are dragging down your own energy. This will attract more situations to you that are harmful. By choosing to release negative emotions, you are releasing their hold on you. This will lighten your energetic load and free you up to attract more positive experiences in your life. Keep in mind that how you live your life is your choice. Whether you decide to remain mired in misery or rise above the challenges you face, it is the gift of free will that gives you the option to choose the path that you take.

If you need help extending forgiveness, you can ask the archangels for assistance. They will help you to release the negativity and heal the pain that you have been carrying.

Repetition May Be Necessary
Even after you have extended forgiveness, there may be times when a situation will appear in your life that will bring to the surface old pain and remembrances of harmful situations. When this happens, you can extend forgiveness again and visualize the situation and the people involved as healed.

Choosing to be Free
As you make the choice to free yourself from the past, you are also making the choice to open yourself up to love and more positive experiences. Your spirit will be lighter, and you may even feel as though a physical weight has been lifted from your body. Enjoy the benefits and freedom that comes from releasing your past, and shift your focus to the present—which is full of gifts and opportunities for making positive choices regarding your life path.

Namaste!

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium, Motivational Speaker, Reiki Master, & Author of How Have You Loved?

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Falling in Love with Your True Self

Lotus - A New BeginningWould you marry you? Not just, do you love yourself, but are you IN LOVE with yourself? And by that I mean, do you truly love who you are inside and out, great qualities and flaws, the whole package…as you do when you are in love with someone else? This is not about ego saying you are the greatest thing since sliced bread, but about you having the joyful feeling of true love for yourself. Do you love who you are? Every aspect, even your shortcomings? Do you forgive yourself when you have done wrong, as you would another? Do you encourage yourself, as you do others? Do you thank yourself and give gratitude to yourself for learning important lessons and being able to see the positive in situations that were challenging to handle?

Being Your Own Best Friend
When a friend is upset or feeling down about relationship problems or a mistake that they had made, do you berate them and make them feel worse about themselves? Or do you comfort them by helping them to see the actions that they took that were positive and help them to see the silver lining or higher purpose for the events that took place? Most of us would when lend an ear and provide kindness and understanding. So, why is it that when we are having problems or make mistakes that our inner critic goes into overdrive and we berate ourselves for the difficult circumstances that we face?

In order to turn that pattern of thinking around, I recommend thinking of yourself as your own best friend. When you find yourself mentally and emotionally beating yourself up, stop. Think about what you would do if it was your best friend in a similar situation. Ask yourself what you would say to them or do for them and do that for yourself instead. Be kind and honest with yourself. Know that you did the best that you could under the circumstances that you faced and let go of the angst. Learn from your mistakes and know that you will do better next time because you have honestly assessed the situation and have learned what didn’t work. That knowledge is invaluable as it will help you to blaze new trails by trying out different solutions, move in a new direction, and/or open up new opportunities for you to grow.

Falling in Love
Back in October, I had a Spirit Medium reading given to me by my friend, Valerie, in which my deceased Dad came through. He said, “You have to marry yourself first.” When Valerie asked me if I understood, I said, “yes.” At the time, I thought it meant just to love myself for who I was, but now I know that my Dad meant that I needed to fall in love with myself first and everything else would fall into place. Truly loving who you are is the same as loving God. It is an acknowledgment of the wonderful gift that he has given you – the creation of your Spirit.

Your relationship with yourself and with God greatly affects your life and determines the path that you will take. The closer your relationship is with yourself, the closer you are with God. You are Him and He is you. All of our Spirits are connected through the light that is within each one of us…and that light comes from God, our Creator.

Sharing the Love
Once you have truly established a loving relationship with yourself and God, all other relationships will follow because you are at peace with who you really are, both internally and externally. Other people see and recognize that peace within you and are naturally drawn to the true you that you are radiating out to the world. Additionally, when you are at peace with yourself, it is easier to share your heart and joy with others. At the same time, it is easier for you to accept love from others because you know that you are worthy of receiving gracious gifts and abundance.

With Light and Love,
Karen T. Hluchan
Spirit Medium & Reiki Master

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com

Reasons for Being

Peaceful SanctuaryThe theme that emerged from
Spirit this week revolved around life lessons and the reason why certain people enter into our lives.

We come here to this Earth to learn lessons that will help our souls to evolve. We choose what lessons we will learn before we are born into this world; however, the way in which the situations will come about are yet to be determined. While we are making these decisions, members of our soul group, as well as others, volunteer to help with certain lessons and you volunteer to help with theirs. This is what is known as a soul contract.

Certain people enter our lives to help us fulfill our soul contracts. For instance, someone may opt to pass away at the age of 27 in order to help members of their soul group to learn how to cope with tragedy, as well to understand that death is not the end of the Spirit because the love that connects us never dies.

Others may help us to learn to overcome the fear that holds us back from realizing our dreams. Most soul contracts involve a complex set of lessons that serve multiple purposes for multiple people. When we are born, the knowledge and awareness that we had about the contracts we made in Heaven is obscured from us. This is because it is part of our journey as a soul; to rediscover the reasons why we are here. The more we seek out the depth and breadth of this knowledge, the more in tune we are with our life purposes and can more readily see the lessons that we are learning and sharing.

Free will always plays a role in whether or not the lessons you have chosen to learn will be completed. That is why the way in which they come into your life is left to be decided by your choices. If you chose not to learn a particular lesson, whether consciously or subconsciously, it will come back to you repeatedly in this lifetime. For instance, if fear is blocking you from manifesting your dreams, situations will come up that will help to teach you about overcoming your fears such as conversations with others, books that you read, etc. (Note: The Angels and God are continuously giving you the tools you need to succeed with your soul’s evolvement. It is your choice whether or not to listen.) The time will come for you to put what you have learned into action. If you succeed, you will move forward onto the next lesson. If you do not, it will prevent you from moving forward in your life.

A prime example of this may be in someone you know, it may even be yourself. This person seems to struggle and be stuck in a pattern, whether it be harmful relationships, addictions, negative thinking, etc. This person is struggling within themselves and is having a hard time overcoming a particular lesson. People who are in this situation require compassion, even if it is challenging to give that to them. They should not be looked down upon just because they have not learned a lesson. Instead, send them love and kindness in prayer or help them if you can. Please know, though, that it is ultimately their decision about whether or not they want to move forward with their life. You cannot control them and they cannot control you.

This may be a good week for taking a look at your own life and the lessons you have learned. Take some quiet time to assess your achievements and to look forward to the ones that are to come.

Namaste!

With Love and Light,
Karen

www.HealingSpiritWithLove.com